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C: Slave Contract
Date: Thu, 23 Jul 2009 06:41:19 -0000
From: "MaitresseX"

Does anyone on this list have experience with a slave contract?
If so please share your experiences.

Also, I am looking for a copy of a slave contract.

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Re: C: keeping sub hubby nude - chastity a start?
Date: 19 Jul 2009 15:22:46 -0000
From: stoney

Ashley wrote:

>any suggestions on making my sub hubby stay nude at home?

Dear Ashley

If You and he both agree that he has a need to be dominated i
suggest the best manner in which You will shift the direction
Y/you both are traveling, if keeping him naked is something You
desire, is to find out what excites his need for domination.
Strengthen that desire and need within him and he will more
likely follow Your direction and lead.

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C: Chastity, foot worship and the feeling of being gelded
Date: Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:06:29 -0700 (PDT)
From: slaveboy

Hi All,

It's been quite some time since I have posted here such that
maybe no one remembers me. My Wife/Mistress and I have enjoyed
almost ten years of lifestyle D/s. I bought her our first
chastity device for our wedding and we took D/s vows, after the
actual wedding, in private.

Chastity has long had a deep hold on me, but after trying so
many different devices my Mistress settled on her favorite as
the Club Fem mcd because she liked the spikes and the pain I had
to endure with every arousal.

She enjoys using me for oral and she has redefined what "sex" is
for me. For me, "sex" has been reduced to simple foot worship. I
once posted years ago on one of the ways she did this, but I
think it's worth retelling.

She would allow me to take my cage off, and then fetch the
petroleum jelly. She would often dress up for my "lesson in self
control" as she would call them. She would have me masturbate in
front of Her. She would tease me with her foot, dangling it and
pointing it at me and would order me to stop masturbating before
I could cum and then she would have me scurry over and kiss her
foot as she told me how nice it felt to have her feet kissed and
worshipped. I would be on the edge but unable to cum, with very
pleasant sensations going through me as I kissed and worshipped
her feet. After she was done, she would make me get back in the
cage and she would refer to my worship as my relief.

It was a long time until I was able to accept that I was being
conditioned to be sexless for her.

She had other, similar activities she would put me through, all
conditioning me to enjoy the pleasure of foot worship more and
more, which I learned to do in a serious way. She even began to
call me her eunuch, she said sex was only for her, and that
males are dirty and that making a "mess" in her bed was
disgusting and unacceptable.

It has evolved over the years to where we are now... "foreplay"
for me is now kissing her hand (first base) kissing Her down
there while she is clothed (second base) kissing her feet from
toes to ankle (third base) and, when she is pleased with me, she
will lift up her foot and allow me the intimacy and pleasure of
kissing the bottoms of her toes and feet (which is going all the
way).

When she wants me to pleasure her, after she is done, she always
sends me to her feet saying "you may have your pleasure now
slave". At this point, I find it intoxicating, mostly because of
all the conditioning and training to make me realign my wants to
her wishes, and now I find her feet are highly eroticized for
me.

Newest development:

She got me a new cage recently and things took a very different
turn after that. It's custom sized and when Mistress realized
how comfortable it was, she took everything a bit farther,
telling me that I am to stay in it for a year in her honor. She
made me take a vow that I would remain caged for the year as
long as there are no physical problems.

It's been over five weeks and I can hardly even feel that it's
there. I feel it is the best cage for many reasons. Mistress
loves it and the really cool thing is, neither of us had any
notion that very first time when she had me put it on that it
might actually stay on me forever, but that is what she has
since implied!! She said that as long as there is no reason to
remove it that it will stay on. The darn thing is so comfortable
it's amazing.

When she asked how it felt after a couple weeks in it, I told
her that it felt more like I had been gelded, because most of
the time it feels as if there's nothing there anymore. She
smiled and looked very pleased and said she liked that, adding,
"you do know that once a male is gelded there's no going back
for him" leading me to think that, should I make it for the
year, she'll have a little celebration or something to
acknowledge my 'achievement' and then expect me to continue on
as her eunuch.

New rules, implemented because of this new cage are;

I will remain caged as long as there are no physical reasons to
take it off (I can shave and clean myself easily because of it's
design)

I may not cum. To the end, if and when it happens I must consume
it, because the thought of that deters me from wanting to cum.
Because she says that my fluids must continue to build daily in
her honor, if there is some loss it must be consumed. If she
isn't there I must report it to her.

I must accept that it is disrespectful and disobedient to her if
I do cum and that I will be punished for doing so, in addition
to having to eat it.

I must exercise daily to work off frustration and stay in shape.

I must not bring up the subject of wanting to get out because I
took a vow to stay in it.

This is all true and is not a joke or a fantasy, nor is it
embellished. Has anyone else been kept chaste for such a long
time? (assuming I can do this).

Also, how long is the longest time anyone has gone w/o cumming?
I went the first 3 1/2 weeks but had some spillage in the early
morning 2 weeks ago and swallowed it for the first time in my
life... found it disgusting and don't want to do that again so
I'm trying my best to do as she wishes.

She calls me 'patience' now and says i'll earn the name
'chastity' if i can do this for a year.

Private emails are always appreciated.

herslaveboy_2000@yahoo.com
email address info

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Re: C: Birdlocked male chastity belt in silicone
Date: Wed, 22 Jul 2009 08:59:02 -0700 (PDT)
From: slaveboy

j boy wrote:

>this has made chastity a lot less enjoyable for both of us and
>am now looking for something more secure... perhaps a full
>belt. yes these are far more expensive but if i had bought a
>"cs 100" from "chastity steel" in the first place i would have
>spent the same as trying the others... or less since we are
>leaning that way now anyway.

I'm just catching up on back issues after having sent in a
posting yesterday about our new chastity cage.

The advantages of this cage are, it is steel, so it will not
break, ever. It is custom fitted in a very specific way that
ensures comfort while restricting erections, it is easy to clean
and even shave in it by pulling skin this way and that and it is
actually reasonably priced.

I was so impressed that I'm negotiating with the maker to try
and help market it. Anyone interested please email me privately
and I will help you to get yourself one. Also, if there is any
need for adjustments after the purchase, they will be done for a
small shipping charge only.

I'm in a hurry to leave right now so anyone interested please
email me. I believe my other post from yesterday goes into other
details. I hope you haven't committed to anything else yet. Take
care!

herslaveboy_2000@yahoo.com
email address info

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C: learning to be a dominatrix
Date: Mon, 13 Jul 2009 04:01:11 +0100
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com

Hello,

In "how to be a better dominatrix" - "Willing to learn" wrote:

>I too am new to this whole thing.. and actually we tried it
>for the first time last night.. and well.. it ended up going
>nowhere...

That's fine, don't worry about it. Think of dominating a
submissive male as like learning to ride a bike (if you'll
excuse the analogy) - do you remember your first time on a
bicycle?

Most folk don't go anywhere the first time they sit on a
bicycle, you may go round in circles if you are lucky, and you
will most likely fall of a few times before you get the hang of
it. Some folk even have stabilisers (training wheels) or even a
parent holding the bike up. Although I think sitting on a guy's
face is quite a bit easier than staying upright on a bicycle.

Anyway, until you get your balance, think of DOMestic like the
dom/sub stabilisers. Ask questions here yourself and soon you'll
begin to get the hang of it even if you will not be ready to
head out or get up any speed on the main road. As you've just
discovered by reading a thread from 2008 any replies posted to
your questions now will also help others like yourself in the
future.

Where do you want to go with your new bicycle? Why did it not
get there? Did it a least start to go in the right direction?
What made lose balance and fall off?

>Thank you all for your great advice, and any more you post!

To post more advice we need new questions. However, the "how to
be a better dominatrix" message you replied to was posted over a
year ago in June 2008, and there has been a lot of good advice
given on DOMestic before and since.

Your best way to access some of that advice is via the front
page of the blog at:-

http://u4ds.com/

and scan down the sections in the sidebar until you see a
subject which is appropriate or of interest.

For example, the section this post is filed under is....

Learning / To be Dominant at:-

http://u4ds.com/learning/to_be_dominant/

But there are lots of other topics that may interest you, too
many to give links to them all here.

Any time you need help there are 4 key strokes to get you
straight to DOMestic - u4ds - You can just type U4DS in most
search engines or browsers and you'll go straight to the front
page of the blog and you can then scan down the menu on the
right hand side to topics like....

Communication / Introducing Wife to FemDom
Communication / Session Planning
Communication / Slave not submissive
Communication / Wife understands

Learning / Contracts and Rules
Learning / Training Hubby

to pick out just a few. When folk send in a post or question we
try to file it under all the relevant headings so folk can find
the most relevant topics later.

Why not send in a separate post on any of these or other topics
yourself, tell us more about you, your partner, and where it is
you want to go on your new bike? :-)

sincerely,
Christine at Ms-Christine.com

The Fem Dom Training Software.
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S: In The Bank Manager's Cupboard. Part Thirty-three
Date: Fri, 24 Jul 2009 22:57:46 +0000
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com

Previous issues.

In The Bank Manager's Cupboard - by Ms. Christine
Copyright 1986-2009 Christine and David Stevenson

Part Thirty-three

When the lights were turned up, David heard Karin
pronounce, "There you see it. A clear breach of rule
five after he had been familiarised both with the
rules, and the severity of the punishments applicable."

They all agreed.

Karin smiled to the ladies conspiratorially, "I think
you will also agree that I will have no alternative but
to administer the severest chastisement."

David thought 'My God why did I not control myself'.

The other slaves present were all glad that it was not
one of them who were to suffer the 'severest' of
punishments. 'Toilet' was the only one who could have
no thoughts on the matter. With the doors closed
upstairs he had the indignity of being alone with his
predicament. He was obliged to smell, feel, taste and
think of only one thing.

While Catrina and Karin set about preparing for David's
flogging, Madam Kwai was relishing her treatment of
Adra. She had finished pinching her nipples and thighs
and had moved on to direct stimulation of Adra's
genitals. Adra was flushed with embarrassment at her
own unavoidable pleasure as Madam Kwai's fingers
insinuated themselves within her. By the time the
beating started, Adra was well on her way to her first
orgasm, moaning with the pleasuring that she was
powerless to resist.

Catrina had unlocked David's handcuffs and put her hand
into David's panties. She grabbed his genitalia and
squeezing she grinned, "We have you by the balls". She
led him into the study where Brian had been readied as
a punishment horse. Brian was kneeling on all fours,
David was bent across his back from the left side.
Karin locked David's left wrist to Brian's right wrist,
his right wrist to Brian's right ankle. A chain from
David's neck went under Brian's abdomen and tightly
around David's suspendered thighs, back to his neck.

David, now kneeling over Brian, could not escape his
punishment. Much as he might fight it, it would be in
Brian's interest to keep him in place, if he was to
avoid any stray strokes of David's chastisement.

Karin decided to start with the tawse as usual, "Rules
five and two. Let me see, five and two, I think that
makes fifty two strokes doesn't it?" She smiled at the
ladies, who all agreed that five and two did indeed
make fifty two.

"NO NOISE!" Karin ordered, speaking now to the
trembling David.

Long before the warming with the tawse was over, David
had to be gagged. Catrina did the necessary and Karin
thanked her. "Thank you Catrina. I think I will have to
add another fifty two with the crop for that
disobedience, what do you think?"

Catrina agreed sarcastically, "Yes, I think so Karin,
he must learn obedience, and you did specifically order
that he be quiet." They both knew of course that this
was only a charade, and that David would eventually
'deserve' far more than that.

Marique had enjoyed watching Adra's embarrassed orgasm,
and although watching the punishment was exciting, she
decided on a delightful diversion. Having obtained
Madam Kwai's approval she lubricated an eight inch
vibrator with KY jelly and gradually inserted it into
the 'Table'. When it was all the way home she turned it
on and sat back to watch both shows. It wasn't long
before Madam Kwai had to use her crop to correct the
incline of the 'Table'.

Marique then noticed that Pippa was unemployed and had
'her' come and kneel between her legs. Christine had
trained Pippa well and Marique was well pleased with
the services 'she' was able to offer with 'her' tongue.

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