DOMestic Bdsm and Female Domination

Hello,

Ashley wrote:

>what are your suggestions on teaching him to take cock. like a
>good hubby?

Not sure whether you mean a flesh and blood male cock, or
whether you mean teaching him to take female "cock" - as in a
dildo?

For my opinions on safe ways of using a dildo, fingers and butt
plugs on your male slut, please see my post earlier today at:

how to fuck hubby with a strap-on

It is a good idea to read that post anyway for safety, and if
you intend for him to take a male cock then there is no harm in
working him up to it by getting him used to taking a female one
first.

As psychological preparation, it will probably get him in the
right frame of mind if you tell him things like:-

"When you've learned how to suck me and take my dildo, I'll
enjoy watching you perform on my men friends before they fuck
you."

In my experience men are motivated by what pleases a woman, and
they like nothing more than thinking they are exciting you. So
telling him it will turn you on to fuck him and watch him being
fucked will likely excite him.

>he doesn't know this yet, but he will be my cocksucker and
>fucker, and looking for ideas and suggestions..

If my post referred above doesn't cover it, then perhaps you'd
let us know what kind of cock-sucking and fucking you have in
mind for him.

sincerely,
Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.
http://www.mschristine.com/program.shtml

Ashley wrote:

>what are your suggestions on teaching him to take
>cock. like a good hubby?

Undertake the following procedure nightly for at least one hour.
As the weeks pass increase the timings because when the husband
takes cock from another male he will have to remain in place for
up to fifteen minutes.

Get hold of a hard, straight dildo (not a gelatin filled one and
not a curved one) about three quarters of an inch diameter and
about ten inches long. You will also need absorbent kitchen
paper, rubber gloves and a bottle of lotion, liquid soap or
other lubricant. As in all training processes, a paddle or
school cane is essential.

Instruct the husband to go to the toilet and do a number two,
then to wipe and wash his bottom thoroughly and shave the
perianal hair. Examine the husband's bottom to check that it is
clean and properly shaven. If he has not done it properly,
paddle his buttocks hard and insist that he do it properly. Do
not clean or shave him yourself

Give the husband a roll of kitchen paper and a waste bin. Put
the rubber gloves on. Put the husband into either a squatting
position or a bent over position. Forbid the husband to touch
the dildo until you tell him to touch it. If he demurs or
obstructs the training process, use the paddle with strength.
Tie him into position over a heavy desk if you need to.

Grease the dildo with lotion or hand cream, put a blob of lotion
on his anus, then keep the husband in place and gently but
firmly push the dildo up his bottom as far until only the base
of it can be seen. The anal canal is parallel to the spine and
unless you use too much force the dildo will guide itself along
the canal without hurting or causing any damage. If the husband
feels pain he must bend further forward, which will straighten
his anal canal. Do not stop inserting the dildo.

Hold the dildo in his bottom for twenty seconds then allow his
body to expel it. As the dildo emerges, instruct the husband to
take hold of the dildo, wipe the brown stuff off it, wipe his
bottom clean, and return the dildo to you. Inspect his bottom
and the dildo.

Hold the dildo at the husband's mouth and insist that he lick
and kiss it. Then push the dildo into the husband's mouth until
he is choking on it. Hold it in place for a full minute. The
husband must close his lips around the dildo and kiss it.

Then grease the dildo again and repeat the process, lengthening
the times appropriately.

Towards the end of the training process ask the male who is
going to be inserting into the husband's bottom to hold the
dildo.

Hello,

While I liked the focus on gradually training hubby to accept
"cock" over a prolonged period as expressed in Jennie's post,
there are a few details I will have to disagree on.

Jennie wrote:

>a hard, straight dildo (not a gelatin filled one and not a
>curved one)

I agree with Jennie, these are important points, you don't want
the dildo to be curved, and neither do you want it to flop
around and go in directions that you can't control. You don't
want to be thrusting against the walls of the anal canal where
you can do serious damage.

You want it to slide smoothly along the canal unimpeded. So a
dildo that will not bend easily, not too thick/wide, and is not
sharp in any way is a good idea. Rigid and unbending, but it
doesn't have to be too hard.

>about three quarters of an inch diameter and about ten inches
>long.

I'll have to disagree with the focus on length unless you intend
to hold quite a bit of it in your hand, when you may be gripping
several inches or more, so in that case a ten inch one may mean
you are only inserting five or six inches.

But if you are going to strap on a dildo and thrust into him
vigorously, then focusing on getting ten inches up inside him is
not a good idea for a beginner.

All of the pleasurable areas are within the reach of a female
finger, so depending on how much external buttock flesh he has
which will be resisting your thrusts, you may want to think in
terms of something closer to five or six inches.

Male bodies differ and some may have a lot of buttock flesh in
the way of a good pelvic thrust with a strap-on and this may
mean you'll want a longer one.

>a bottle of lotion, liquid soap or other lubricant

The kind of liquid soap most households have around is not a
good idea for internal use as a lubricant.

As I say in my other post on this topic today, for entering the
anus use a water based lubricant, and do not use hand creams or
other products which were not designed for internal use and
which may cause irritation.

A fairly good rule for folk who don't have access to shops which
sell specialist lubricants is that if the pharmacist sells it
for lubricating a woman's vagina during intercourse, it should
at least be safe for internal use.

>As in all training processes, a paddle or school cane is
>essential.

This I like, especially as it's good to offer an alternative
training program if internal anal pain requires one to stop the
anal training.

A cane can encourage some enthusiasm for "cock sucking".

>Instruct the husband to go to the toilet and do a number two,
>then to wipe and wash his bottom thoroughly

I agree with this and would go further and encourage a bit of
internal washing too.

>and shave the perianal hair.

An excellent idea, I do find men's anal hair to be both messy
and unattractive. What do the men folk use for shaving around
their own anus, an electric razor perhaps? I imagine an ordinary
one is hard to use out of sight down there?

>Grease the dildo with lotion or hand cream

Hand creams are not a good idea. Only use a product designed for
internal use.

>put a blob of lotion on his anus

More than a blob I'd say. I'd use my finger in a rubber glove
and massage quite a few blobs up inside him until it feels like
a wet blancmange in there. And I'd cane him if my finger came
out looking too messy. That encourages him to take more care on
the internal washing next time.

>If the husband feels pain he must bend further forward, which
>will straighten his anal canal.

Adjusting his position for ease of entry is essential.

>Do not stop inserting the dildo.

I strongly disagree. Definitely stop inserting if he feels pain.
But don't immediately or suddenly withdraw. Wait a while for the
pain to ease. Then ensure it is safe to proceed as I explain in
my post here:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/07/how_to_fuck_hubby_with_a_strap.shtml

>Hold the dildo in his bottom for twenty seconds then allow his
>body to expel it.

This does sound like a good training method to get him
accustomed to it. Also allowing his body to expel it slowly and
naturally is better than withdrawing against any resistance his
anal constriction might cause. Plenty of lube makes for a lot
easier withdrawal.

>As the dildo emerges, instruct the husband to take hold of the
>dildo, wipe the brown stuff off it, wipe his bottom clean, and
>return the dildo to you. Inspect his bottom and the dildo.

All of which is fine, except I'd also have a condom on the dildo
which can then immediately be removed, wrapped in the tissue,
and dropped in the bin.

>Hold the dildo at the husband's mouth and insist that he lick
>and kiss it.

Not unless it was wrapped in a condom and the condom has now
been removed. It is not wise to needlessly risk transferring
anal bacteria to the mouth..

If you want him to believe he is kissing and licking the same
dildo, in the same state as was just removed, then just put a
new clean condom on it while out of his sight.

>Then push the dildo into the husband's mouth until he is
>choking on it. Hold it in place for a full minute. The husband
>must close his lips around the dildo and kiss it.

All fine except for the choking. Teach him to accept it fully
without choking. If he becomes accomplished at deep throat he'll
make a useful male slut to offer to your boyfriends.

>Then grease the dildo again and repeat the process,
>lengthening the times appropriately.

Now I'd of course advise that you put a fresh condom on the
dildo to start again.

For more on this topic see my post:-

"how to fuck hubby with a strap-on"

sincerely,
Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.
http://www.mschristine.com/program.shtml

Hello,

The mechanics and safety of anal play has been covered, so I'd
like to look at one of the fun and yet very safe aspects from
this male's perspective of the other element in Ashley's
question...

Ashley wrote:

>he doesn't know this yet, but he will be my cocksucker

The "cocksucker" element provides lots of humiliation potential,
and humiliation is one of my favourites, probably _the_
favourite aspect for me of Fem-Dom.

The training process itself provides plenty of opportunity for
roleplay that is highly arousing, for me anyway. Being told that
my Mistress wants to train me to take cock, both orally and
anally is exciting. Even if I don't really believe (in my heart
of hearts) that she intends to introduce another male into the
scenario in the way she implies.

I tend to suspend disbelief when excited, (you may call this
thinking with the small head) and there's something quite
exciting about seeing Mistress with a strap-on in position over
her sensual and feminine lingerie, a bulge ready to be unzipped
from her jeans, or revealed beneath her raised skirt.

Kneeling with my head buried in her vulva is one of my favourite
positions anyway, so the fact that I'm being "forced" to do so
is going to arouse me, even if it is for a rather different
reason - "cocksucking" or in this case dildo sucking.

In another context you can read in our video description for
"Brought to Heel" where Christine says:-

"When Mistress has men... in the house... and she brings them to
her bed, doggy must learn to be very quiet and not play with
himself under the bed. Now I can't risk doing this without
having a trial run. Just so that I can see that you know how to
behave yourself."

In that instance, while I was really on the floor pretending to
be a doggy and listening to Christine pleasure herself above, I
didn't really believe she intended to bring a man home, but my
doubt, and my imagination was enough to make it a very arousing
role-play.

It's precisely this kind of dialogue that excites me, even if
I'm unsure, or perhaps because there is always that doubt in my
mind.

So Mistress would only have to say something along the lines of
how much it would turn her on to see me suck a man's cock, and
that she wanted to train me to do it properly, for me to get
very excited by the idea of being forced to suck on her dildo.
Such is the effect of my thinking with the small head.

Christine wrote:

>if you intend for him to take a male cock then there is no harm
>in working him up to it by getting him used to taking a female
>one first.

And even if you don't intend to, there's a lot of fun in letting
him think you might.

Christine wrote:

>In my experience men are motivated by what pleases a woman, and
>they like nothing more than thinking they are exciting you

That's certainly true of me. There is nothing more exciting than
the idea that my Mistress is sexually turned on by dominating or
humiliating me. So the idea that watching me suck on her dildo
might excite her a bit, is going to make me want to do it.
Although I might also enjoy expressing a bit of reluctance, just
so I can feel her "force" me.

Ashley wrote:

>looking for ideas and suggestions..

My suggestion is to tease him in to it. Sow the seed. Mention
while in conversation how exciting it would be to see a man suck
cock and then let the seed grow for a while.

Then one day when you sit on his lap and let him spot the bulge
of a dildo. Or emerge into the living room with one pushing out
the front of a loose fitting negligee; he will not be so
surprised when you tell him why it's there and that you want to
see him suck on it.

Or simply sit on the sofa or an armchair and order, "come over
here cocksucker, on your knees and show me how it's done."

On the issue of condoms, shouldn't a "cocksucker" be trained in
the art of putting one on the dildo (or cock) before he sucks
it?

No need to hide the process of putting a condom on a dildo. Turn
it into an exciting mind fuck which lends weight to the idea you
are training him to do it for real, and train him to make a cock
safe.

"Mistress doesn't want you to take any risks with your health,
so you've got to learn how to make a cock safe before you suck
on it."

Hand him the condom.

"And you've got to learn how to keep the cock hard and excited,
you have to learn to play with it, and make putting the condom
on a sensual experience for the guy."

Plenty of excuses for spanking and further training if he gets
at all fumbly with the process. Teaching him to suck cock like a
'pro' could be a lot of fun.

"Now I have neutered you with your chastity belt, you are almost
like a girlie boy, so a 'real man' like my boyfriend will enjoy
having you suck on him."

When you move on to 'fucking' him with your dildo, then he could
also be taught by his Mistress how to play safe and put a condom
on the dildo before anal penetration, and how to remove it
afterwards, and if needs be put another one in place before the
cock goes into his mouth.

After this kind of mind fucking, you may find he becomes less
reluctant, and perhaps quite eager, to excite his Mistress and
do it for a "real man". And he'll also be reassured by the
knowledge that when he does, his Mistress will keep him safe.

sincerely,
David

Download "Games People Play" by David at
http://www.mschristine.com/manual.shtml

Ashley wrote:

>"i have another question that he is unaware of yet... but soon
>will be... what are your suggestions on teaching him to take
>cock. like a good hubby?"

I think Christine probably gave you a good overview of that
subject. All I can add is to let him know how exciting it is for
you to have him take that for you.

When I was training my husband for it I enjoyed letting him know
that's how it was going to be. When he got caught up in it and
began enjoying it I began increasing the humiliation aspects of
it. I liked getting him way out there and then asking him what
he thought all of his former girlfriends would think if they
knew he could take a much bigger cock than they could. Would
they laugh at him? I bet they would have. That thought alone
could make him shoot over his head.

Like Christine, I would also suggest giving him to a male friend
and once, even did him in front of a group of male "doms" who
stared as though watching a train wreck. I told him not to mind
them staring at him. They were only living vicariously through
him at that point. What a lucky boy he was to get the sort of
attention he was receiving.

Jennie wrote:

>"If the husband feels pain he must bend further forward, which
>will straighten his anal canal. Do not stop inserting the
>dildo."

I disagree with regards to not stopping the insertion.

As a matter of course, when training a submissive to take cock
anally, I think it's safest to keep my position steady and allow
the submissive to mount my strap on at his own pace. He can feel
whether or not he's in pain. I can't. I might feel resistance
but I might not.

If you tear your boy, he may need surgery to correct the damage
and there will be a long recovery afterward. That's not going to
be much fun for you if you screw this up so err on the side of
caution.

Always aim for his maximum pleasure because that's what makes
him want more of that kind of training. When I'm finished I want
him thinking about how he can get more of that, not how he can
get out of it. If he wants more I'm at an advantage. I can
eventually train him to take a larger cock, take it for a longer
period of time, take it in conjunction with humiliation, etc. If
I hurt him, he's probably going to run away every time I strap
on. Besides, I wouldn't like being inept.

So if he's feeling pain you need to stop. Don't move in or out,
just stop. It may be that his inner sphincter has gone into
spasm in which case you don't want any movement at all until his
body begins to relax. Wait until you feel the resistance leave
which is a sign that the inner sphincter, over which he has zero
control, is beginning to relax again and opening up.

If he still feels pain after 40 seconds or so, allow him to
slowly move off of the dildo at his own speed. Continuing pain
is an indication of a problem which should be seen by a
physician.

I also disagree with the use of liquid soap as a lubricant.
Soaps make a very bad lube as they will dry out delicate
membranes.

Christine wrote:

>Not sure whether you mean a flesh and blood male cock, or
>whether you mean teaching him to take female "cock" - as in a
>dildo?

Yes he will be taking my girl cock and a real cock I'm picking
out for him. And I want to train him properly so I can enjoy
having him used for as long as I'd like in one session... or as
many as I see fit for him to take at a time.

Ashley

dildo use on males

I have been forced to take a fat cock in
my ass then down my throat.
Loved it!

Just wanted to say thanks for the advice on this thread. It took
six months of training, but my husband took his first real cock
in his ass last night. It was hotter than I ever could have
imagined.

Hi. This is my first post. I'd like to start a new thread.

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