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Judy, great you are asking this... I am, as a sub, in this kind
of situation... it seems She is also wondering how to proceed...
I am very curious what suggestions you will get!

Hello,

judy wrote:

>i have myself a very willing lickslave who has serviced me
>well

How long have you had him? Does he live in? Does he go out to
work, or is he a full time domestic servant? You will see below
why those questions help us to determine what kind of ideas to
suggest.

>i also keep myself two lovers who i see weekly and upon them
>leaving, i require the use of my lickslave.

Lucky lickslave! The "clean up after" is fantasy of many male
subs. You can see me being required to do such a clean up in our
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>what i would like to know, where do i go from here?

Where would you like to go? Why do you ask? Is it because you
are looking for ideas to increase your own fun? Or do you sense
some need in him to be taken further? If we knew which, it might
help to answer your next question which is...

>i enjoy what i have now, do i pursue more as in rules for my
>lickslave to follow or just keep things the way they are?

If you enjoy things as they are now, and if he's happy, then why
change anything? Don't fix it if it ain't broke.

However, rules can be a fun way to increase the pressure on a
sub, they can be useful ways to change his behaviour, if there
is something you would like to change, and they can also be a
good reason or just an excuse to punish and spank for failure.
Also sometimes plainly silly rules can be a lot of fun.

If he's a live in lickslave then a silly rule might be something
like "always kiss the floor when you enter a room" - and at
breakfast time you can be watching him try to remember to leap
up from munching on his cornflakes to kiss the kitchen floor as
you enter and leave the room a few times during your morning
routine.

By the time one of you leaves for work a few punishment points
may have been accumulated to allow for some fun when it's time
to get together again in the evening.

If he's not a live in slave then you can impose rules on his
morning and evening routines and question him upon your next
meeting as to whether he obeyed them. Perhaps give him a pair of
your panties which he has to keep in a pocket and take out and
kiss every time he enters or leaves any room at his home. (you
might extend this to his office or work with some caution
depending on his circumstances)

>i also control when he is permitted to cum which is no more
>than once a month as that seems to keep him with a strong
>desire to service me

Yes indeed, tease and denial is a powerful motivator. You
mention the denial element in limiting him to once a month. But
would you enjoy provoking a failure to obey that restriction by
increasing the tease element? Maybe as a way to provoke an
excuse to punish?

If so, you might require regular masturbation without orgasm, to
increase his frustration and put temptation in his path. Perhaps
supervised if you live together, or at pre-ordained times and
situations if you live apart. For example have him masturbate in
the bathroom at work three times every day, almost to the point
of ejaculation, but without actually cumming.

>Any suggestions?

Lots, and if you care to tell us more, I'm sure other folk will
chip in with theirs.

sincerely,
David

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Hello,

David wrote:

>watching him try to remember to leap up from munching on his
>cornflakes to kiss the kitchen floor

Oh David! I'm surprised you forgot to mention my favourite
breakfast routine, see below...

>masturbate in the bathroom at work three times every day,
>almost to the point of ejaculation, but without actually
>cumming.

Before he goes to work, have him masturbate under the kitchen
table, out of sight, while you enjoy your own cornflakes and the
coffee he previously prepared for you. His instructions should
be to kiss your feet silently, but only when he is unable to
continue without 'spurting', as a way of asking for permission
to ejaculate.

When you've finished your breakfast you just get up and tell him
something like, "Good boy, not today, go and get dressed for
work now, you can ask for permission again tomorrow."

If he's going out to work, remember to tell him to behave
himself during the day and question him in the evening. Any
failure brings punishment, and of course prolongs the time until
he get's his reward day, when he will eventually be granted
permission.

Perhaps that reward might be to go to the bathroom with
instructions to look in the laundry basket for something to
sniff while he 'spurts' like the "dirty boy that he is".

sincerely, Christine

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