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Re: C: What is the best strap-on to break in a virgin husband?
Date: 18 Nov 2009 15:40:04 -0000
From: stevesatinsub

The best way to be "deflowered" is using the methods described
in the "Story of O". Start with something small in width, well
lubed, worn for a long time. Use a hospital size maxipad held
with an old V-belt and a tight pair of panties to hold it in.
Make sure the dildo is flared at the base so it doesn't get
sucked in!! Then slowly graduate from size medium to size big to
size large.

It is a well used method, one which I used and to this day only
need a little stretch and lube to accommodate a strapon Mistress
or well endowed Master!!

mrs-silk.com

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Re: C: What is the best strap-on to break in a virgin husband?
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:11:17 -0000

Hello,

Al (naughtyboytoserveyou) wrote:

>She has ordered me to do research and find out what are the best
>strap-on harnesses.

You'll find some recent posts in the free area of DOMestic in
the right hand menu under both "Anal Play" and "Equipment -
Toys" at:-

http://u4ds.com/anal_play/strapon_use/

and

http://u4ds.com/equipment_toys/strapon_dildos/

Going back a bit further, QTpie also asked almost the same
questions on Christmas day 2003, there were a number of helpful
replies posted which password holders can read at:

Strap-ons - help

Nexus, Cyberskin and Vac-u-lock were brands recommended in that
thread.

My own experience is that anything elasticated means the thing
flops about wildly and is out of my control. Plastic is not good
for harnesses, whereas if it is attached to a fairly firm
leather belt around my hips that I can buckle tightly, it feels
more like it's part of me.

>I also am wondering whether I should get one that already has
>a cock or buy the dildo separately. And whether I should get
>the vacuum kind or not.

If you use the member's search facility you'll find a lot of
help from Madamplz and others on those topics in various threads
in the three "CBT, Milking and Anal Play" sections of DOMestic
at:-

CBT, Milking and Anal Play - Part One
CBT, Milking and Anal Play - Part Two
CBT, Milking and Anal Play - Part Three

For example, I found these two discussions:-

Strap on Dildoes and Ass play
The Strap-on Blues

However, your Mistress might prefer to start humiliating you by
having you kneel somewhere that make you accessible so that she
can thrust a small dildo or vibrator into you by hand.

Start small. This will safely give her confidence in penetrating
you, and it's effects, before she tries doing it with a dildo
attached to a harness.

Also this will allow you both to learn what likely size is going
to work best on you.

If you don't have a DOMestic password, you'll find among the
posts I mentioned in the free area, that a good place to start
for some safety tips might be the post I made in July this year
entitled "how to fuck hubby with a strap-on" at:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/07/how_to_fuck_hubby_with_a_strap.shtml

sincerely,
Christine

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Re: C: What is the best strap-on to break in a virgin husband?
From: Madamplz
Date: Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:58:04 EST

naughtyboytoserveyou wrote:

>"She has ordered me to do research and find out what are the
>best strap-on harnesses. I also am wondering whether I should
>get one that already has a cock or buy the dildo separately.
>And whether I should get the vacuum kind or not. So I am hoping
>some of you can share your experience."

I've gone through several strap ons and harnesses and my
favorite is still the Accu-Lock with some modifications.

The dildo with balls attached, can be purchased in a number of
sizes and skin tones, is removable for cleaning, and can have a
bullet type vibrator inserted into the shaft prior to inserting
the post into the dildo. The harness itself is not workable
right out of the box, in my opinion.

I removed the plastic buckles and straps and sewed on pieces of
2 inch wide black elastic which makes it a lot easier to get in
and out of. I've also cut just the buckles off and stitched
velcro to the straps making it a lot more adjustable. I have
found that the elastic will need replacement from time to time
and that the velcro may come undone during a rigorous session. I
prefer replacing the elastic.

If your wife likes to use a bullet vibrator against her clit you
can also glue a piece of velcro to the back of the control unit
so it can quickly be repositioned on the strap so as to be out
of her way in any given position. She might also like to make a
small pocket at the bottom of the front panel to keep the bullet
from slipping out of place during use.

When she's finished with you she can slide out of everything
easily so you can clean it for her.

Don't underestimate the value of cleaning for her. I love
leaving my lingerie and tool out to be cleaned and get an
equally strong rush from seeing it all cleaned and put right for
next time.

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Re: C: What is the best strap-on to break in a virgin husband?
Date: 20 Nov 2009 17:02:55 -0000
From: Fastdrop

My Wife/Mistress uses a strap-on 2 or 3 nights a week, at first
it hurt and I was ashamed of what she was doing to me, now I
realize it empowers Mistress, and I have become very submissive
through this process. I am not gay but I have begun to enjoy
having sex with Mistress in this manner.

We actually went to the Stockroom to buy Mistress's strap-on.
You can go to www.stockroom.com and see a variety of
types.

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Re: C: chastity for small penis?
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 2009 09:56:26 -0800 (PST)
From: slaveboy - chastityheaven

Danielle wrote:

>I went to the chastity heaven web site. Very impressive

Why Thank You Danielle!

Since going public and having our very first Internet review,
things are picking up and we're getting a lot of interest.
DOMestic readership is getting involved nicely too, so a big
Thank You to Christine and David!

The web designer and fairly well known blogger "Aarkey" received
his Cage model about 2 weeks ago and he has a very in depth
review on his site at aarkeybabble.blogspot.com

I'm sure some of the readers read "Aarkey's" blog so we were
glad he offered us up a professional redesign with a device as
partial payment for it. He has reviewed most other devices out
there and they can all be found on his blog, so you are able to
compare what he says about us with what he has said about the
others, including Birdlock, CB-2000 and Curve as well as many
many others.

Because of size issues, ours is the only device he has been able
to wear more than a couple or few days. He says he will be
posting ongoing updates. I know he's getting out today for his
birthday after a record breaking (for him) 7 1/2 days in it.
Aarkey also had a size issue, but his issue is he is too big for
the other devices so we made him one that fits perfectly. Please
read his review and ask any questions you might have if you are
considering getting one. Devices are delivered within 2 weeks,
and usually a lot less than that. Customers seem very surprised
that we are able to deliver a custom sized and custom made
device so quickly.

Also, please be aware that if you or any reader has a request
for minor changes in the design of the device you are
considering buying from us, we will happily accommodate any
reasonable requests for modifications to suit your needs. Just
ask. More about that on Aarkey's blog and he also posted pics of
him wearing it and using his piercing to make it even more
secure. We're also very excited about an added security option
we are about to release for sale very soon (possibly this week)
that is very promising for those wanting added security. Ask if
interested at www.chastity heaven

Lastly, there will be other reviews and articles by a major
chastity website soon and it's one of the bigger chastity sites!
I'll keep readers posted when that option becomes available too.

Thank You
chastityheaven

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P: Lookin' for a school Mistress
Date: Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:00:56 -0000
From: "SlvJack"

I'm 32y's old, shy, i'm a bed wetter boy, i like to be dominated
by a Strong Woman or many Ladies, or online school Teacher.
(short trousers, strict discipline, traditional clothing, strict
mothers, corporal punishment... Toys: Big wood paddle, bath
brush, ropes, whip, belt, handcuffs, pink panties, pantyhose)

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Re: P: Lookin' for a school Mistress
From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Date: Thu, 26 Nov 2009 00:38:36 -0000

Suggest you start here:-

http://u4ds.com/admin/personal_ads_faq/

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Re: P: out of the closet Phoenicia NY
From: Madamplz
Date: Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:58:04 EST

Ms Christine wrote:

>if you limit yourself to online or just one form of contact
>and don't put yourself out there in the real world market
>place, your chances of finding "Ms Right" are reduced. The
>hopeful submissive might be right under Ms Right's nose
>already, and she may be looking for one just like you, but you
>may not be putting out appropriate signals for her to pick up

Yes, I agree. I wouldn't suggest anyone give up his day job to
become a shoe salesman just to find a mistress. I see submissive
men everywhere, in all walks of life. I have worked for several
and I have employed several as well. I make it a point not to
engage with anyone with whom I work, however.

Not putting out appropriate signals is probably the largest
reason submissive men don't find Ms Right.

I'm thinking of someone I met when I was in my late teens. He
was about 40 and someone I'd met through work but with whom I
did not work directly. He was a subcontractor to my employer but
whatever my employer needed from him was ordered by me and
followed up on by me.

He was appealing in a bookish sort of way; pleasant, unassuming
and deferential. Whenever I thanked him for his completed
assignments he would always respond "My pleasure". It would have
been a very short step to state and perhaps even get what he
really wanted but it into a giant leap by him overstating his
willingness to give me what he thought I should have but did not
show me what he wanted. I felt alarmed, not charmed.

In retrospect he might have accomplished his purpose by not
overextending himself so quickly. Had he simply told me with
some emphasis that he liked taking orders from me I probably
would have understood the nature of the relationship he wanted.
Instead he blurted out what I'm sure he thought was a fabulous
offer - a life of luxury, a home, a car without telling me why
he wanted to provide these things for me.

He did not know me beyond our professional association so his
overly generous offer seemed completely inappropriate and I
turned him down. I think it was a missed opportunity for both of
us. It would be another ten years, at least, before I understood
why vanilla men never held any long-lasting appeal for me. He
could have saved us both a lot of trouble.

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S: Jim's Story - part three
Date: Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:15:42 -0400
From: randolphus

Jim's Story by randolphus
first part linked here

part three

That Night.

About 6:00pm on that first evening Kathleen said, "Please
prepare supper for Sarah and myself, and prepare something for
yourself."

I was confused but took her words, literally. I'm not much of a
cook but I boiled water and warmed bottled spaghetti sauce and
prepared a spinach salad. I put white wine in the refrigerator.
I set the table for three and waited for Sarah to come home.

I was reading the newspaper in the kitchen when she arrived. I
rushed up to her and gave her a big hug and kiss which she
seemed to return. I thought maybe Kathleen wasn't right about
her planning to leave me.

I took her jacket which she was holding and hung it up. I asked
if she was ready for dinner. She said she was hungry, and I
called Kathleen.

Kathleen walked into the dining room and asked, "Why did you set
three plates? I told you to fix dinner for Sarah and me."

"You said to fix dinner for myself also?" I asked, I was
confused and afraid.

"Remove the extra plate and silver ware and glass. Now!" she
ordered.

I was wondering what Sarah was thinking about all this and I
tried to hurry and do it somehow inconspicuously.

Of course Kathleen would have none of that, "What do you say
when I tell you to do something?" she demanded.

"Yes ma'am," I said, now my humiliation in front of Sarah was
complete. I tried to catch her eye but she was looking
elsewhere.

"Serve us dinner," Kathleen ordered.

"Yes ma'am," I muttered.

Kathleen jumped up and slapped me twice. My face started burning
only partly from the slaps but I was overwhelmed with
humiliation in front of my wife. I wished I could be somewhere
else.

"Now get the dinner," she commanded.

"Yes ma'am," I tried to say loudly but my voice was catching in
my throat.

I brought in the bowl of spaghetti, and the sauce and the salad,
and Sarah and Kathleen looked at me and they waited. "Did they
want something else?" I wondered. Then it came to me: "Would you
like me to serve you?" I asked.

"Of course, why are you here, is there some wine?" Kathleen
asked.

"Yes ma'am, I'll get it," I said still breaking up a little, I
was still blushing. I brought the chilled wine in and knew
better than to just put it on the table, "May I pour?" I asked.

"May you pour what?" Kathleen demanded.

I was about to answer, "this wine" then I realized and said:
"May I pour Miss Kathleen?"

Kathleen said: "Would you like to offer Miss Sarah some wine
also?"

I suppressed sighing and said: "May I pour Miss Kathleen and
Miss Sarah?"

Kathleen said: "Very nice, yes, please pour some wine for us."

I did and almost ran into the kitchen.

Immediately Kathleen came after me and said; "A good waiter
doesn't leave his diners without asking if they want anything
else."

"I'm sorry madam," I say.

Then she takes my arm and drags me back into the dining room.
She lets go of my arm and sits down, picks up her glass and
smiles at me.

"Is there anything else, madams?" I manage to say.

"Kathleen says: "Nothing right now but why don't you just stand
by in case we want something."

"I was going to start cleaning the pots," I said.

"No, dearie, we want you to wait on us, please stand tall, and
stand still. When we are finished, you can clean up," Kathleen
said.

I felt stupid just standing there. After a few minutes they
started talking and ignored me.

Kathleen said: "He agreed to what we discussed."

Sarah said: "I didn't think he would."

"He said he did it for you," Kathleen said.

Sarah looked at me and said: "He is such a dear. How did you
know Mom that he would agree?"

Kathleen said: "I've seen the way he opened doors for you,
gathered your clothes, helped you put on your coat, waited on
you and then he seemed willing to do it for me, I think he will
be happy in his new role."

Sarah said: "How can he be happy doing housework instead of
being a big boss?"

Kathleen said: "Maybe happy isn't the right word, is a moth
happy to fly into a flame? He has no choice."

Sarah said: "It's the sex."

Kathleen said to Sarah: "Ye-es."

Kathleen said to me: "Pour more wine Jim."

Without thinking: "Yes ma'am" And I poured the wine. They were
drinking it pretty fast especially for Sarah. In the old days
Sarah and I split a bottle with Sarah getting a glass and I
drank the rest and then the rest of Sarah's glass which was
still half full. I was hoping they would leave some for me.

Sarah said: "I couldn't go on with the sexual demands; they were
making me feel inadequate."

Kathleen said: "This is the right way; we all get what we need."

I was amazed, at what Sarah said, I never took advantage of her,
I'm not some kind of rapist. I love her, what's wrong with
wanting your wife. I didn't think they wanted me to join the
conversation.

Sarah said to me: "I love you Jim, but I want the sex only when
I want it, I don't want pressure to have it, like if you buy me
an expensive dinner, I feel I have to perform for you. That
creates a lot of stress on me."

I said: "But Sarah, I never wanted to force you, which would be
the last thing in the world, I thought you liked me to crave
you."

Sarah said: "That's the problem Jim, you never knew when I
wanted it and when I didn't, maybe it was my fault, but it just
couldn't go on."

I said: "So what are we going to do?"

Kathleen said: "When Sarah wants sex she will tell you. When you
want sex you will just continue wanting. And I will warn you
right now, begging or nagging is not allowed."

I said: "I'm so taken by surprise, but isn't there some other
arrangement than I become your waiter?"

Kathleen said: "You don't yet understand, it's not a waiter we
want, it's a total slave who will adore us and do whatever we
want whenever we want it."

I was incredulous. "Slave!?" I said.

Kathleen said: "You've been spanked, stood in the corner, and
ended up lusting for me, what do you think that was all about?"

Kathleen continued: "We are offering you a wonderful gift that
you know that you want. You get to live 100% with us. Every
minute of your day will be spent pleasing us. We will of course
take every opportunity to find fault and punish you in the most
infantile and bizarre manners that we know you crave."

Kathleen changed her tone: "I want you to clear the table, clean
up the kitchen and dishes, then report to us in the den. Don't
be slow. I haven't heard any 'Miss' or 'Ma'am' from you. This
time it's just a warning. Now move it!"

"Yes ma'am," I said almost as a reflex. Sarah was looking
straight at me. "May I take your plate miss Sarah?" was all I
could get out. I was full of thoughts; at least the kitchen will
allow me to think.

"You can take my plate too, slave boy!" said Kathleen.

I took the dishes, scraped the food into the disposal and put
the dishes in the dishwasher and cleaned the counters, the table
and the floor, all of it easy if not mindless.

Was it true that I wanted to be their slave? What a concept, I
had managed 21 professional programmers and engineers. What will
this be like? I thought maybe I would be managing two women and
myself. I had been paying bills, and managing the finances,
would I still do that? Sarah didn't say we would not have sex
any more, only that she would be the one to ask for it. Will
there be sex with Kathleen; what will Sarah say? There's some
wine left in the bottle. They didn't say I couldn't have it.

After I finished I went into the den and found a seat.

I just knew I would hear from Kathleen and she didn't
disappoint: "When we're sitting in a room like this you don't
just walk in! You show recognition that we're here in a modest
way like a little bow."

"How about a curtsy?" Sarah said.

"Can you curtsy, show us," Kathleen said.

I got up and tried to curtsy, I felt really stupid. The wine
made it easier.

"You should curtsy to both of us. So if we're sitting here you
curtsy to me then to Sarah," Kathleen said.

I curtsied twice. I saw that there was a gleam in Sarah's eyes.

Kathleen asked: "Is there more wine?"

"No ma'am," I answered.

"I thought there was some left," Kathleen said.

"I drank it ma'am," I said.

"Sarah, I don't think we gave him permission to drink wine. What
shall we about this?" Kathleen said.

"Get stripped off now, Jim, totally naked, do it now!" Sarah
said.

I quickly took off the few clothes I had on, including my watch.

Sarah's eyes had a glint that I was familiar with; "On your
knees here!" she said pointing to the floor in front of her.
"Now take off my shoes and stockings," she ordered.

I quickly took off her shoes, then pulled down her panty hose
with her cooperation and took a little risk and removed her
panties, as soon as I did that she grabbed my hair and pulled me
into her and I did what came naturally.

I could tell she was coming then when she finally came, she
pulled on my hair harder and I got back to work. I could tell
she was coming again, and she did but she was still pulling on
my hair, "This couldn't be my wife," I thought.

After the fourth climax I was released and she fell backwards on
the sofa making satisfied noises. I was a little out of breath,
and would have been happy to relax, but I noticed that Kathleen
was staring at me.

I was uncertain what to do. I tried, "How can I serve you
ma'am?"

Kathleen said: "You may take my clothes off, do it gently!"

I took off her high heels, I hadn't noticed until then that they
were stilettos as before, and then I discovered she was also
wearing stockings again. I had to remove her panties first and I
wondered what she would do if I sniffed them now. I was
encouraged to do this because she lifted herself so I could
proceed. I was beginning to fumble with her garters when she
grabbed my hair and I was drawn into this strange pussy.

Just five or six hours ago I was a pervert and slapped for
sniffing her panties, now my face was buried in it. How strange,
I thought. She was slower than Sarah but after a while I could
feel the signs, but this time I just kept on, after the second
time she pushed my head away.

I waited maybe only a few seconds, when Kathleen said: "Don't
put any clothes on and go stand in the corner where you
installed the hook."

I felt like I received a kick. I started getting up, Kathleen
said: "We have to settle our accounts over the unauthorized
wine."

I knew protesting anything was useless.

Kathleen said, "You should also curtsy when leaving our
presence, don't forget."

Picture this, I am totally nude, these two women are somewhat
spent from sex, that I provided. I'm a little surly.

Kathleen says in a not nice tone: "If I observe reluctance or
anger, I will add it to my list; you better go before you're in
real trouble."

"Yes ma'am," I said and did two curtseys.

( Part 4 on the DOMestic blog this evening - http://u4ds.com/ )

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Re: S: Jim's Story - part three
Date: 17 Nov 2009 18:16:35 -0000
From: Jim

I found the story very hot and found myself getting stimulated
from the story line...

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Re: S: Jim's Story - part three
From: "David" at u4ds.com
Date: Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:45:04 -0000

Hello,

Jim wrote:

>I found the story very hot

Me too. Very erotic. But you don't have to use the past tense.
Randolphus has sent us another seven episodes which we'll be
posting here. Stay tuned, I've just been reading the episodes
yet to come (being a DOMestic moderator has it's advantages) and
I'd say it gets steamier yet.

>and found myself getting stimulated from the story line...

It is possibly a touch more interesting for you, given that the
character Randolphus created has the same name as you?

sincerely,
David at u4ds.com

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Re: S: Jim's Story - part three
Date: 20 Nov 2009 16:53:24 -0000
From: Fastdrop

Great story!! As a sub/maid to my wife/Mistress I can relate to
this very well.

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U: Aarkeybabble Chastity Heaven Review Marches On...
From: slaveboy - ChastityHeaven
Date: Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:11:31 -0800 (PST)

...with wit and "wisdomme", let's call it "frustration humor"
caused by our device :-)

I just had the pleasure of reading a new update written by
"Aarkey" at Aarkeybabble.blogspot.com and I think every reader can
appreciate the humor and wit with which "Aarkey" deals with his
frustration at wearing a truly secure device.

I am referring to his entry called "So, how about a quickie",
which as of today, Monday, is now the second blog down. It
tells, as only Aarkey can, about his recent experience with his
current longest run in chastity with his new ChastityHeaven
Cage.

Read about the security and how it is affecting him, knowing
that there is no (practical) way out! I have never read anyone's
blogs with any regularity, other than this one here at DOMestic
but I think Aarkey's will be the second one to receive that
status... the second in about 11 years since I first started
reading DOMestic and got hooked. So, I do not recommend him
lightly and am looking forward to the feedback his writings may
generate here.

Please everyone, if you enjoy a good, witty and whimsical look
at kink in general, I have to say that Aarkey's blog is a great
place to start, regardless of whether or not you're interested
in a device from us. There's plenty of good quality writing and
a unique viewpoint on the kink and chastity lifestyle. And I
must say, we here at Chastity Heaven all GREATLY enjoyed reading
it and are "tickled pink" that his blog entry "So, how about a
quickie" would never have happened without us :-) It's worth the
read, trust me.

And Aarkey, I know you're out by now but we wanted you to know
about the HUGE grin on my Mistress' face as She read it.

THANKS! :-)
ChastityHeaven

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