DOMestic Bdsm and Female Domination

The best way to be "deflowered" is using the methods described
in the "Story of O". Start with something small in width, well
lubed, worn for a long time. Use a hospital size maxipad held
with an old V-belt and a tight pair of panties to hold it in.
Make sure the dildo is flared at the base so it doesn't get
sucked in!! Then slowly graduate from size medium to size big to
size large.

It is a well used method, one which I used and to this day only
need a little stretch and lube to accommodate a strapon Mistress
or well endowed Master!!

mrs-silk.com

Hello,

Al (naughtyboytoserveyou) wrote:

>She has ordered me to do research and find out what are the best
>strap-on harnesses.

You'll find some recent posts in the free area of DOMestic in
the right hand menu under both "Anal Play" and "Equipment -
Toys" at:-

http://u4ds.com/anal_play/strapon_use/

and

http://u4ds.com/equipment_toys/strapon_dildos/

Going back a bit further, QTpie also asked almost the same
questions on Christmas day 2003, there were a number of helpful
replies posted which password holders can read at:

http://www.mschristine.com/DOMestic/dom3429.htm

Nexus, Cyberskin and Vac-u-lock were brands recommended in that
thread.

My own experience is that anything elasticated means the thing
flops about wildly and is out of my control. Plastic is not good
for harnesses, whereas if it is attached to a fairly firm
leather belt around my hips that I can buckle tightly, it feels
more like it's part of me.

>I also am wondering whether I should get one that already has
>a cock or buy the dildo separately. And whether I should get
>the vacuum kind or not.

If you use the member's search facility you'll find a lot of
help from Madamplz and others on those topics in various threads
in the three "CBT, Milking and Anal Play" sections of DOMestic
at:-

CBT, Milking and Anal Play - Part One
CBT, Milking and Anal Play - Part Two
CBT, Milking and Anal Play - Part Three

For example, I found these two discussions at:

Strap on Dildoes and Ass play
The Strap-on Blues

However, your Mistress might prefer to start humiliating you by
having you kneel somewhere that makes you accessible so that she
can thrust a small dildo or vibrator into you by hand.

Start small. This will safely give her confidence in penetrating
you, and it's effects, before she tries doing it with a dildo
attached to a harness.

Also this will allow you both to learn what likely size is going
to work best on you.

If you don't have a DOMestic password, you'll find among the
posts I mentioned in the free area, that a good place to start
for some safety tips might be the post I made in July this year
entitled "how to fuck hubby with a strap-on" at:-

http://u4ds.com/2009/07/how_to_fuck_hubby_with_a_strap.shtml

sincerely,
Christine

The Fem Dom Training Software.
Advises on how best to train your husband/lover.
http://www.mschristine.com/program.shtml

naughtyboytoserveyou wrote:

>"She has ordered me to do research and find out what are the
>best strap-on harnesses. I also am wondering whether I should
>get one that already has a cock or buy the dildo separately.
>And whether I should get the vacuum kind or not. So I am hoping
>some of you can share your experience."

I've gone through several strap ons and harnesses and my
favorite is still the Accu-Lock with some modifications.

The dildo with balls attached, can be purchased in a number of
sizes and skin tones, is removable for cleaning, and can have a
bullet type vibrator inserted into the shaft prior to inserting
the post into the dildo. The harness itself is not workable
right out of the box, in my opinion.

I removed the plastic buckles and straps and sewed on pieces of
2 inch wide black elastic which makes it a lot easier to get in
and out of. I've also cut just the buckles off and stitched
velcro to the straps making it a lot more adjustable. I have
found that the elastic will need replacement from time to time
and that the velcro may come undone during a rigorous session. I
prefer replacing the elastic.

If your wife likes to use a bullet vibrator against her clit you
can also glue a piece of velcro to the back of the control unit
so it can quickly be repositioned on the strap so as to be out
of her way in any given position. She might also like to make a
small pocket at the bottom of the front panel to keep the bullet
from slipping out of place during use.

When she's finished with you she can slide out of everything
easily so you can clean it for her.

Don't underestimate the value of cleaning for her. I love
leaving my lingerie and tool out to be cleaned and get an
equally strong rush from seeing it all cleaned and put right for
next time.

My Wife/Mistress uses a strap-on 2 or 3 nights a week, at first
it hurt and I was ashamed of what she was doing to me, now I
realize it empowers Mistress, and I have become very submissive
through this process. I am not gay but I have begun to enjoy
having sex with Mistress in this manner.

We actually went to the Stockroom to buy Mistress's strap-on.
You can go to www.stockroom.com and see a variety of
types.

Al,

Congratulations on your deflowering! I hope your wife has a
splendid time working your ass!

Seriously though, I do have some thoughts in answer to your
questions.

As you are new to all of this, you will not want to run out and
purchase the world's largest dildo. That said, I think she would
like it if the dildo is larger than your cock. Get one a bit
bigger than you are, it will be a good start I imagine.

I do prefer silicone dildos for strap-on play, but remember;
don't use silicone lubricant with a silicone toy.

The very best (and eco friendly) harness I've ever used is the
"In Her Tube" available at:

http://www.inhertube.com

Milliscent
http://www.milliscent.com