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Re: C: female to male penetration
Date: Sun, 27 Jun 2010 12:01:17 -0400
From: Danielle

fosterpinkef wrote:

>would like to discuss female on top sex, female to male
>penetration, and other female dominant sex on your site.

One of my favorite ways to exercise my power over my male sub in
regards to female to male penetration is orally.

I had him search until he found a near exact replica dildo of
the favorite cock I ever had. It was an eight and a half inch
beautiful thick black cock as compared to my slaves hairless,
four inch erect little penis.

The dildo he bought for me has a suction cup at the base which
comes in very handy. For instance, I am writing this on Sunday
and my slave is naked preparing a lovely supper while I am
sitting on the couch with my lap top in hand and my feet up.
Attached to the fridge is the ominous dildo.

Every 30 minutes the kitchen timer goes off and my slave is
required to suck the dildo for 10 minutes before resuming his
kitchen duties. I of course mock him throughout the process
reminding him of the fact that if he had a cock like my former
lover instead of his pre-pubescent penis, I would be having sex
with him and he wouldn't have to suffer so....

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C: Hooded submissives and female hypnotists
From: "Darryl Ducharme"
Date: Wed, 23 Jun 2010 18:52:40 -0600

Hi Ms Christine and David,

i just loved that hooded documentary too. i was just reading
about this and poof it hit the list in totally different way.
love it.

Nothing new to say, always redundant, but here is a clip
on hypno stuff i thought was cool.

all my love
nuked_potatoes

(video displays here)

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C: Latest on Zappers
From: exedrummer
Date: Wed, 23 Jun 2010 20:16:04 -0400 (EDT)

In "Domesticity - Real Fem Dom in daily life" - David wrote:

>What man would refuse to wear his zapper, with such a promise
>as an incentive?

I haven't checked lately for updates on Zappers. Where is a site
that provides reasonably priced Zappers for short range
enjoyment? Nothing fancy, just does the job of shocking at
various levels. Thanks.

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Re: C: Latest on Zappers
From: "David" at u4ds.com
Date: Thu, 24 Jun 2010 02:55:53 +0100

Hello,

exedrummer wrote:

>Where is a site that provides reasonably priced Zappers for
>short range enjoyment?

You didn't say where you are located, but you can buy "Dog Shock
Collars" in most pet stores. You'll want to buy one for tiny
dogs as we did. Our own "zapper" was an Innotek FS700A
Micro-line. But there are much cheaper ones available nowadays.

This selection from Amazon for example starts at around US$24.

Electrical Play information is available to members at:-

http://www.mschristine.com/DOMestic/a_elec.htm

and on that page you will find a lot of discussion of the
collars.

A list of "Remote Control Dog Collars" web sites posted
frequently in the past is at:-

http://www.mschristine.com/DOMestic/dom0821.htm

Non members can start in the Electrical Play section in the
right hand menu of the DOMestic blog.

The "Dog Shock Collars" link will take you to

http://u4ds.com/electrical_play/dog_shock_collars/

which is about the devices which are most easily obtained in pet
stores.

Let us know what model you buy and give us some feedback so we
can recommend to others.

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

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Re: C: Latest on Zappers
From: exedrummer
Date: Thu, 1 Jul 2010 17:05:08 -0400 (EDT)

Thanks. I read the reviews and many didn't like most of the
products you suggested. I appreciate you helping anyway and it
has lead me to other examples that I will check into. Those
reviews are very important for everyone's use. I am glad someone
took the time to warn others.

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Re: C: Latest on Zappers
Date: Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:29:06 +0100
From: "David" at u4ds.com

Hello,

exedrummer wrote:

>I read the reviews and many didn't like most of the products
>you suggested

I wasn't actually recommending any except perhaps the one we've
tried, I was just trying to show you that cheaper basic models
are easily available as it seemed to me that was what you were
looking for.

I can't recommend anything I haven't tried myself, and we've had
good service from our own Innotek FS-700A model. But we did find
it very expensive, as I said, and that probably didn't fit your
original request for "Nothing fancy".

As you have read the reviews on the site you've perhaps seen the
review by PJ "A more versatile, less expensive shock collar" in
which he recommended the Ultra-e from D.T. Systems as being
perhaps better and cheaper than the Innotek FS-700A.

Here is a linked picture of this item.

sincerely,
David at Ms-Christine.com

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C: When Femdom goes wrong
Date: Mon, 28 Jun 2010 10:38:55 +0100
From: rfrub

Dear Mistress Christine and David,

Over on IAR (International Association of Rubberists) is an
alert which takes the reader to:

Robin Mortimer died during S&M session

It makes sad reading but it is something we should all confront.
Over on IAR (slight changes for this audience) I wrote:

Similar events have happened before. I followed the link to the
English text and read the lady describing herself as a sadist of
the worst sort. I hope that by far the majority of folk here
would not want that said of themselves. The moment you describe
yourself in such terms it is to say "not a safe person".

Rubber loving (and for this readership Femdom) should be about
sharing an extra-ordinary pleasure and if for some pain becomes
part of the experience, then those who take that on themselves
to do should be fully educated in the responsibilities that
topping brings. It seems these ladies did not think like that.

I am reading a good book from Greenery Press about exactly this
called The Kiss of the Whip and another one in the genre is
called On the Safe Edge.

(moderator added links to IAR and books)

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Re: U: International FemDom Day July 24
Date: 22 Jun 2010 04:32:12 -0000
From: subiam

Christine wrote:

>I'm inviting all readers to post details of their public or
>private experiences to celebrate International FemDom Day here

On IFD, I hope to be doing all of the following (apologies in
advance for links to FetLife but it is a good, free site):

Wearing a rubber band on my left wrist as a subtle sign (FetLife
linked).

Wearing an Ownership symbol t-shirt to be a little less subtle
(zazzle linked).

Hoping to make at least one new friend in the FemDom world.

Making a donation to a women's cause to promote the welfare of
women (FetLife linked).

Doing my best to put my needs completely aside to serve my wife
with 100% attentiveness.

Hoping to attend a local IFD event, if I get lucky (FetLife
linked).

Anybody got any better ideas?

subiam{to Queen-T}

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Re: U: International FemDom Day July 24
Date: 22 Jun 2010 09:00:54 -0000
From: Susan

Christine wrote:

>he is fortunate I'm such a kind Mistress and I only used the
>"plus" sign in my sums. 24+7 only comes to 31.

Christine,

How I admire your thought in giving David such a treat as being
allowed a glimpse of your stocking top. Have you thought that
either in celebration of FemDom day or as a special treat for
your 31st Anniversary you could continue to use the plus sign
and say 3+1 = 4 so he could have the same treat of the red
handled cane and a glimpse on four successive days. I am sure he
will realise that you have put a lot of effort into giving him
this treat and will be properly appreciative.

How he will look forward then to each successive anniversary. He
will never become one of those poor men who forget the day they
were accepted.

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U: Teramis "That Kinky Stuff" BDSM ESSAYS
Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 09:06:30 +0100
From: rfrub

Dear Mistress Christine and David

Many DOMestic readers have likely heard of Miss Abernathy and a
number have probably read her books like "Erotic Slavehood".
Just by using the search terms BDSM submissive essay i quickly
found this site:-

http://www.teramis.com/kink/

Not a large site and not a visual one but seven essays written
by a female and of such universal value and good sense that i
would bring them to the attention of any person interested in
carefully thinking through the deeper meaning of Dominance and
Submission. And having read them i would rate them with the
recognised wisdom of Miss Abernathy. Not a surprise because on
investigation Teramis has many strings to Her bow.

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U: Your Freedom (and censorship)
From: Mr. Grundy
Date: Sun, 4 Jul 2010 17:00:53 +0100

Dear Christine and David,

You will no doubt recall that I have been banging on these past
years about censorship in the UK and that, for example, since
26th January 2009 it has been illegal for anyone in England and
Wales (and now Scotland, I believe) to possess an "extreme"
image, even if the activity itself is legal.

Well, I was intrigued to learn that the new UK coalition
government has kicked off an initiative, I quote "to create a
more open and less intrusive society. We want to restore
Britain's traditions of freedom and fairness, and free our
society of unnecessary laws and regulations - both for
individuals and businesses". The UK government website for this
undertaking, called "Your Freedom", is:

http://yourfreedom.hmg.gov.uk/

I had a quick look at this site the other day and,
unsurprisingly, it has attracted its fair share of nutters, but
a couple of people have contributed on the anti censorship
theme.

May I, through your site, ask your UK supporters to log on to
the "Your Freedom" website and make some contribution to the
censorship debate? It might raise the profile of the matter in
the political eye.

For further details of the state of affairs in the UK I can
commend the Backlash website:

www.backlash-uk.org.uk/wp/?page_id=4

But it makes depressing reading, so be warned.

Regards

Mr. Grundy.

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U: TES Fest 2010 - July 2nd to 5th
Date: Tue, 22 Jun 2010 16:59:07 -0000
From: "thrash999"

TES Fest 2010 - Find Your Freedom - July 2-5, 2010

TES Fest 2010 will be held at a 3 star hotel in Piscataway, NJ.
We will have the entire hotel for the weekend. There will be
no shuttle buses to ride, everything all in the same place.

We have tons of classes, great vendors, and fabulous play-space
setup by The Crucible. Come out and relax and play. No stress.
Cool people. Who needs the beach when we have a pool all to
ourselves? What more do you want for a holiday weekend.

About TES Fest

TES Fest is the annual gathering for the BDSM and sex-positive
communities to celebrate the steps TES's founding fathers took
in 1971: the opportunity to find our freedom.

Taking place over the Fourth of July weekend, TES Fest is the
premiere event in the NYC Metro region for everyone (from
amateurs to seasoned veterans) to socialize, learn new skills
and simply have a great time. With classes and special events
covering the gamut of topics and special interests, TES Fest
allows people to explore, educate and entertain themselves in a
healthy, safe and sane environment.

Check website for updates
www.tesfest.org

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U: Educational Seminars in NYC/NJ, DC, and Philly
Date: 30 Jun 2010 05:33:21 -0000
From: Sea

Announcement about Educational Seminars in NYC/NJ, DC, and
Philly - July 3rd to July 11th 2010

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I look forward to my upcoming trip to the East Coast to give
seminars! Given below are:

• Schedule Outline
• Class Descriptions
• Bio
• Date, Time, Entry, Registration

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Schedule Outline

July 2-5, Presenting at TES Fest in NYC/NJ area

July 3: Components of a Submissive's Psychology
July 4: Languages of D/s

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July 6, Presenting at Black Rose meeting in DC

Demystifying Psychology of Humiliation

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July 10, Presenting at Sexploratorium in Philly

How to Provide Excellent Service

Psychology of Submissives (Combines
(1) Components of a Submissive's Psychology and
(2) Psychology of Service Submissives)

Humiliation Play Lab (Combines
(1) Demystifying Psychology of Humiliation and
(2) Humiliation: Now It's Time to Play)

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July 11, Presenting at Shag in NYC

Psychology of Submissives (Combines
(1) Components of a Submissive's Psychology and
(2) Psychology of Service Submissives)

Humiliation Play Lab (Combines
(1) Demystifying Psychology of Humiliation and
(2) Humiliation: Now It's Time to Play)

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Class Descriptions

Components of a Submissive's Psychology

Host Event: TES Fest, July 3

In this seminar we discuss the different components that
collectively influence the needs, wants, and behaviors of
submissives, and how unmet needs affect this influence. We then
discuss practical applications of this model: its impact on
relationship compatibility and longevity and its application to
various scenarios.

Helpful to:

Dominants who wish to better understand submissives, make their
relationships more resilient, and better understand basis for
compatibility.

Submissives who wish to better understand self, learn how to
process feelings, learn how to communicate what is important in
a relationship, and understand what would be important to a
compatible dominant.

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Languages of D/s

Host Event: TES Fest, July 4

We begin this seminar by examining what creates a power
imbalance in social relationships, and how the organic power
imbalance has potential to undermine the D/s dynamic in a
relationship. We then discuss the different ways people express
and receive dominance and submission, and how to uncover which
languages of D/s each person speaks. This class will be
particularly helpful to those who wish to better grasp the
mental aspects of D/s, and those who have been approached by a
submissive partner about dominance and are unsure how to
respond.

Helpful to:

Dominants who wish to understand how the organic power can
undermine the D/s dynamic.

Dominants and submissives who wish to know the different ways
D/s can be expressed so they can identify their key modes.

Dominants and submissives who wish to understand the importance
of these languages in a D/s relationship.

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Demystifying Psychology of Humiliation

Host Event: Black Rose Meeting in DC on July 6

Does hearing the word humiliation make you uncomfortable? Are
you puzzled why someone would find humiliation erotic? Do you
enjoy humiliation and want to learn how to take it further?

We begin by discussing the difference between embarrassment,
humiliation, and degradation. Then we discuss two broad forms of
humiliation play: D/s humiliation and SM humiliation. Next we
talk about common themes and risks associated with each type of
humiliation play, and how identifying these themes can allow one
to use creativity for other areas to explore. Lastly, we discuss
ideas for responsible public humiliation.

Helpful to:

Those who wish to understand why someone would enjoy
humiliation.

Those who wish to do humiliation play but must overcome personal
conflict.

Those who wish to know what are the different types of
humiliation play, what are their themes and risks, how
identifying themes can help devise other types of play, and how
to do responsible public play.

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How to Provide Excellent Service

Host Event: Sexploratorium in Philadelphia on July 10

I discuss my approach to service, which includes multiple
elements that fall under the following types of service:
anticipatory, elegant, sacred, and creative service. I use an
example service scenario and interactively discuss what can be
done to achieve these elements of excellent service within that
scenario. Depending on time and space, I either do a demo or
lead the class through creating excellent service for additional
example service scenarios.

Helpful to:

Service submissives who wish to learn to or add to their
repertoire about how to provide excellent service.

Dominants who wish to teach service to submissives.

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Psychology of Submissives [Combines
(a) Components of a Submissive's Psychology and
(b) Psychology of Service Submissives]

Host Events:
(a) Sexploratorium in Philadelphia on July 10,
(b) SHAG in NYC on July 11

Are you a dominant who would like to understand the psychology
of submissives and what can help your relationship last? Are you
a dominant who is uncomfortable to receive service, or cannot
fathom why someone would want to clean your house? Are you a
submissive who would like to understand why you have conflicting
drives, and how to deal with internal conflicts? Are you a
service submissive who has felt unfulfilled and had difficulty
conveying what is important to you towards service and D/s
relationships in general?

First we clarify terminology - what we mean by a submissive and
related terms. We discuss submission with respect to a
personality trait, a sexuality-based role preference, and social
status.

Next we discuss a general model for a submissive's psychology.
The model discusses different components that collectively
influence the needs, wants, and behaviors of submissives, and
how unmet needs affect this influence. We then discuss practical
applications of this model: its impact on relationship
compatibility and longevity and its application to various
scenarios.

Then we will interactively discuss the challenges faced by
dominants and submissives with respect to service. We will then
discuss archetypes of service submissives, how to identify these
archetypes, and why each archetype likes to provide service. We
will then talk about how identifying these archetypes helps
determine compatibility, and to understand what can enhance or
deflate motivation to serve for the different archetypes.

Helpful to:

Dominants who wish to better understand submissives, make their
relationships more resilient, and better understand basis for
compatibility.

Dominants who wish to understand service submissives and what
motivates them.

Submissives who wish to better understand self, learn how to
process feelings, learn how to communicate what is important in
a relationship, and understand what would be important to a
compatible dominant.

Service submissives who wish to better understand what motivates
them to serve, and learn how to communicate needs to a dominant
about what makes service fulfilling.

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Humiliation Class and Lab [Combines
(a) Demystifying Psychology of Humiliation and
(b) Humiliation: Now It's Time to Play]

Host Events:
(a) Sexploratorium in Philadelphia on July 10,
(b) SHAG in NYC on July 11

Does hearing the word humiliation make you uncomfortable? Are
you puzzled why someone would find humiliation erotic? Do you
enjoy humiliation but are conflicted about it? Do you want to
know how you can expand your humiliation play?

We begin by briefly discussing the psychology behind
humiliation: what are the differences between D/s humiliation
and SM humiliation, why someone might like to engage in these
practices, and what are risks. Then we focus on identifying
themes for humiliation play, and how identifying themes allows
one to use their creativity. We then have an example interview
of a sub to discuss what types of questions to ask, and how to
interpret the answers. Then we collectively brainstorm to create
a humiliation scene based on the answers from the interview.

Helpful to:

Those who do not understand why someone would enjoy humiliation.

Those who wish to do humiliation play but must overcome personal
conflict.

Those who wish to learn more about how to pursue this type of
play.

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BIO

Sea has been a BDSM gypsy of sorts for almost 13 years and
attends social and educational events across BDSM, leather, and
fetish communities in multiple cities. He is proud to call home
Austin, a city where a homeless crossdresser is a local
celebrity who ran for mayor, a local band bases all its songs
around the lead singer?s fetish for feet, and adults gather each
year to celebrate the birthday of Eeyore? yes, Eeyore from
Winnie the Pooh!

Sea has done his share to help, as they like to say there, keep
Austin weird. His contributions to the Austin scene include
hosting and promoting a fetish night for three years, during
which time he wrote and directed, performed in, and arranged
music for multiple fetish shows. BDSM influences his artistic
expression, which has occurred in the form of fetish
photography, DJing music for scene events, dance, and writings.
He has also done stand-up comedy at multiple BDSM events.

Sea regularly presents at BDSM events across the country with a
focus on communication and psychology, especially the psychology
of submissives. He was recently invited to join the Advisory
Board for weekend conventions DomCon Los Angeles and DomCon
Atlanta. His current projects include speaking at college human
sexuality class, visiting vanilla forums and taking a tactful
stand for BDSM as needed, and providing information to those
seeking out BDSM or ambivalent about their interest. His past
contributions include chairing the Austin chapter of The Next
Generation BDSM group for four years.

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Date, Time, Location, Registration

TES Fest

Date: Fri July 2 - Mon Jul 5

Time: All weekend

Location:

Near Edison, NJ

Please see http://tesfest.org/

Entry: Please see TES Fest website for registration and day pass
options.

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Black Rose Meeting

Date: July 6, Tuesday

Time: 8-8:30 pm

Location: Hyatt Regency, 400 New Jersey Ave NW, Washington DC

Black Rose Contact: http://www.br.org/

Entry: $5 for Black Rose members, $10 for non-members

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Sexploratorium

Date: July 10, Saturday

Times:

How to Provide Excellent Service 12:15 - 2 pm
Psychology of Submissives 2:30 - 4:30 pm
Humiliation Play Lab 5:15 - 7:15 pm

Location:

Sexploratorium
620 S 5th St
Philadelphia, PA
215-829-4986

Registration and Entry:

All classes are $20 each in advance and $30 on day of class. For
registration, please see this website:

http://passion101classes.com/

and click on Upcoming Workshop Schedule.

The class titles will shortly appear as a hyperlink, clicking on
which will allow one to register.

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SHAG

Date: Sunday, July 11, 2010

Time:

2:00 - 4:00 pm Psychology of Submissives
4:30 - 6:30 pm Humiliation Class and Senior Lab

Location:

SHAG
108 Roebling Street @ N. 6th Street
Brooklyn, NY 11211
L Train to Bedford
Contact Shag:

Phone: 347.721.3302

http://weloveshag.com/

Registration and Entry

One seminar: $20 in advance, $25 at the door
Both seminars: $35 in advance, $40 at the door

Groups of 5 or more receive $5 off ticket of each person

Advance Registration

For online registration, please go to SHAG website and click on
Workshops menu. If you have a group of 5 or more, please
contact SHAG directly to obtain group discount.

Walk-ins, please check SHAG website for any schedule changes
prior to attending. If there are any changes, they will be
posted on SHAG website no later than Saturday afternoon.

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S: Jim's Story - part twenty-three
Date: Sun, 20 Dec 2009 23:17:09 -0500
From: randolphus

Jim's Story by randolphus
first part linked here

part twenty-three - Carmen the tyrant

I woke and Carmen was still sleeping. I reviewed what was
available for breakfast. She had promised a double spanking, and
after the caning I received, I thought pleasing her tummy would
make her a little less vicious.

I imagined different combinations but there just wasn't much in
the pantry. The ingredients to make eggs Benedict were there but
not the sauce. But there were plenty of eggs; so I made a not
Benedict sauce. It was very tasty but not authentic. I cut up
the rest of the fruit. Made some coffee and waited for sleeping
beauty.

Sleeping beauty had a hangover from excessive partying. She said
she didn't want any breakfast. She said she wanted to watch me
iron her underwear.

She lay on the sofa-bed; I set up the ironing board across the
room. She instructed me to iron facing the wall so she could
watch me, but I couldn't watch her.

It took about forty-five minutes for me to iron and fold about a
dozen pieces. I asked if she might want a hot bath and a massage
and she said: "You just want to feel me up."

I said: "No ma'am;" And straightened the blanket lying over her
on the sofa.

She said: "Put away the clothes and fold up the ironing board.
Make sure everything is clean because I'm going to inspect it."

I said: "Yes ma'am."

I busied myself cleaning clean counters, vacuuming clean floors,
and straightening neat drawers. I tried working quietly so she
could fall asleep.

A couple of hours later, she said: "I think I want a hot bath
and a massage, and remember it's for my benefit not yours."

I said: "Yes, ma'am."

I filled the tub hotter than normal, used lots of shampoo to
bubble it up, and escorted her in. I covered her with the
bubbles, and gently washed her with a cloth. I heated the water
by running more hot water, and let her soak while I set up the
massage table. I tried not to enjoy toweling her lovely body
dry.

I used her scented powder instead of oil. She liked it but
didn't say anything. I could tell from the very soft oh's she
was making.

I turned her over and avoided her eyes. I rubbed the powder into
her neck and around behind her ears, and I could feel her
shivering. Finally I rubbed skin cream into her feet then on her
hands. I felt I enjoyed cupping her breasts too much to do it. I
told her I was finished but I said I would re-do any parts she
might like.

She said: "You have good hands."

She said she was hungry.

I told her I'd reviewed what we had in the kitchen, would she
like low fat eggs Benedict?

She said it sounded good.

I served for lunch what I had planned for breakfast. She sat in
a long tee shirt, and a sweatshirt. She ate all the fruit but
left one of the eggs on a muffin. The sauce had no yolks and
only a pat of butter.

She said: "Eat my leftover; on the floor, here." She pointed
with her foot.

I squatted down and ate up her leftover egg Benedict from her
plate with her fork. I caught a glimpse of her expression. Her
lips were pursed; she had a determined look in her eyes. I
didn't know how to interpret her feelings, but I was glad I ate
up the eggs.

She said: "Dress me."

I combed and then brushed her hair. I put on panties and bra
that I had just ironed. She selected a tee shirt and jeans. I
found socks and tennis shoes.

She decided we would go for a walk. We went to a nice park about
a mile away and wandered along its' perimeter.

She said: "Why do you do this?"

I knew what she was referring to, but I didn't have a good
explanation. I said: "Do what Miss Carmen?"

She said: "Why do you want to clean my apartment, or the toilet
at the office, or take canings?"

I tried answering sincerely: "I want to be my wife's slave. It's
a feeling I have that can be called a kink, I recognize it's not
normal. She accepts me in exchange for me doing things for her.
The arrangement is that I suspend wanting things. I let her tell
me what I want and try to embrace her conditions. She assigned
me to Miss Peggy. Then she assigned me to you. At first I
thought it was all about me, I was amazed how well my wife and
my mother-in-law seemed to know how to push my buttons. Lately I
have imagined it has nothing to do with me. It's what she wants.
I'm trying to keep my part of the bargain."

Carmen said: "What do you think about me?"

I said: "I'm not allowed to express how much I like you normally
but you asked, I think you are a gorgeous lady with high
intelligence and an outgoing personality. I respect you
enormously. I'm very grateful that you have taken an interest in
me. I consider it a privilege to be allowed to do the things I
have for you."

Carmen said: "Why does your wife want you to wash toilets and
wants me to make you stand in the corner and beat you with a
cane?"

"I guess it's to prevent me getting the idea that you are in my
debt for what I have done. It seems that the more I do, the more
I get punished. It seems unfair, but the alternative is I do
nothing and my wife loses interest. I think what I do is what
keeps everyone interested in me. So if I do a lot, I will think
I'm pretty good, so maybe washing toilets reminds me that I'm
the slave. Somehow the idea that I have to do what you tell me,
but you can do whatever you want is what excites me."

Carmen said: "You are weird."

I said: "But Miss Carmen, you elected to beat me in front of the
entire group, and my wife and the president, why did you do
that?"

She said: "You don't think I had cause?"

I said: "Of course you did, but so did everyone in the group,
but you brought it about, and now I'm cleaning your apartment."

She said: "I have some kinks too; and I will expose them to you
this week."

I didn't know if I should become afraid.

Instead of going straight back, we went down a side street and
into a neighborhood bar. She ordered a chardonnay and I ordered
a cabernet. We talked more, the conversation got to computers
and it was very comfortable.

On the way back, she said: "You like to get punished?"

I said: "No, not at all. I like my mistress asserting herself
and overwhelming me. In a way I get that feeling from calling
you Miss, and saying ma'am, I try very hard to please."

She said: "But sometimes, like this morning I didn't want you to
please me."

I said: "Yes ma'am; you don't have to. You don't have to do
anything. But I have to do what you tell me to."

She said: "What if I tell you to leave me alone for ever?"

I said: "That's your choice. I would be sad."

She said: "I'm used to guys wanting to get into my pants and not
doing anything for me. You seem to want to do things for me;
don't you want to get into my pants?"

I said: "I would very much like to but I have a thing locked on
my penis; it's believed that I won't be eager to please you if I
climax. And of course there is the question of would you let
me."

She said: "This conversation has been fun, but I seem to be
letting a genie out of a bottle. I haven't heard any Miss or
ma'am in a long time. When we get back I think a little
discipline will re-establish our roles."

I said: "Yes ma'am." I was already feeling in a submissive role.

When we got into the apartment Carmen said to strip and bring
the handcuffs.

I stripped and brought the handcuffs. She handcuffed my hands
behind my back and ordered me into a corner near where we were
standing.

She said: "Don't move or talk."

I was surprised by the turn of events. Carmen was behind me,
unlocking the handcuffs.

She said: "Turn around and kneel down."

I knelt and she was wearing only panties and bra and high heeled
shoes. She looked so desirable.

She said: "Do you want to fuck me?"

I said: "You are so lovely, I would love to."

She said: "How badly? Would you take a beating from me for the
privilege?"

I said: "For sure miss; and ten times over."

She said: "Get up."

I did, and she unlocked my penis corset. It immediately grew to
pay homage to the goddess in front of me. We went to her bedroom
and I ravished her with my hands and mouth. I removed her
underwear and kissed her everywhere. She took my tool and drew
it (me following) to her pussy and I entered her.

Suddenly I had to start thinking of cooking recipes; it had been
so long, and I had climbed to an immense height of passion,
every cell in her body was driving me higher with desire. If I
didn't hold back, I would explode in an instant. I was falling
in love again. I will treasure this girl forever, and then she
went epileptic and I detonated.

I sort of collapsed beside her, then she squirmed around and
there was a pussy on my face, I started licking and then she had
my member and she was sucking. She came in a few minutes but it
took me much longer.

We were embracing and lying down after all the work.

She said: "You may clean me up."

I thought that I already had, but I followed her beautiful naked
body to the bathroom and made a washcloth wet and warm and
patted her clean.

She said: "Dress me back up."

I did, and I adored her a little; touching her here and there.

She said: "Let's get you locked back up." We sat next to each
other on her bed. She took the penis corset gadget and inserted
my penis into it and locked the cover on. Her touching me made
me just want her more. She had a key and I was subject to her
use of it. It makes her so special.

Carmen said: "Since you're still pretty naked, let's work on
settling your account. You owe me two whippings from yesterday,
then you owe me for the sex we just had and then there is the
ten more you offered."

I said: "Miss Carmen that was a figure of speech, not an offer
of wanting a beating."

She said: "Do you want me to add to your debt with a penalty for
arguing?"

I said: "No ma'am."

Carmen said: "Bring the handcuffs and get over this chair."

I wondered if this was Carmen or my wife Sarah's instruction to
her. This was a nice normal girl, why was she being so mean?

Carmen said: "You are a jewel of a guy, you've done wonders for
my apartment, and you dressed me up so all my friends thought
I'd had a makeover, and you made good love. But I don't want to
spoil it all by not doing what I promised. From now until the
end of the week you better not forget how to address me. You
will stand in my presence, and do all of the things you've been
trained to do. Do you understand?"

I said: "Yes Miss Carmen."

How can these women get so righteous?

She said: "I will be very strict from now on because I have been
treating you like a boy friend. If your wife or even Peggy found
out how lax I had become, I might even be fired. You wouldn't
want that would you?"

I said: "No ma'am;" I was getting scared.

She said: "You will count the strokes and thank me and I want to
hear sincere thanks. It's attitude we're molding here, isn't
that right?"

I said: "Yes ma'am."

Crack

The pain rushed around my entire body, I had to talk fast: "I
respect you more than ever, that's one."

Crack

I said: "Cleaning your toilet is all I'm fit for, that's two."

Crack.

I said: "I will jump when you give me a command, that's three."

Crack.

I said: "Oh please Miss Carmen, that's too hard, that's four."

Carmen said: "Sometimes I think you're not so smart. I gave you
instructions and you violated them while you're being punished.
Okay, lie there for ten minutes, we're going to start over and
you're getting double the amount."

It's very uncomfortable to lie across a chair for a long time. I
was partly supported by my feet and head and neck. Ten minutes
in an uncomfortable position is a long time. My sweet Carmen has
turned into a sadist.

Carmen said: "This time you may just thank me and make sure you
count."

Crack

I plaintively said: "Thank you miss Carmen, that's one."

Crack

I said: "Thank you miss Carmen, that's two."

This went on until I got to twenty. I was so sore, my butt felt
that it had been sliced to ribbons.

Carmen took my forearm and pulled me up. She led me to the
living room and pushed me down on the carpet. She said: "Stay
there and don't move."

She came back with a book and sat in the chair next to where I
was lying and started reading. I was so seriously injured by her
and she puts me on the floor and reads a book. Then she put one
of her feet on my shoulders.

After a long while Carmen said: "There is no moving or talking,
the cane is ready to remind you if you forget."

I lay at her feet wondering why her attitude toward me changed
so much.

Carmen said: "Your wife Sarah explained, that you don't need
another lover, you need a strict overseer to make sure you work
diligently, show respect and act humbly. That overseer cannot be
your friend. Lying at my feet like this will help you adjust
your feelings."

I have been working diligently, maybe there were lapses in
curtsies or addressing, but it was minor, and it was Carmen who
made the sex moves, she has the key after all. But what does it
matter? I have to do what she tells me. Is that so hard? Lying
on a soft carpet is better than standing in a corner.

Carmen said: "Get up, I want some tea."

I stood up, and she unlocked my handcuffs.

I said: "Yes ma'am;" and I curtsied.

I made the tea, placed it next to her with a napkin; and I
curtsied; I remained standing.

She sipped the tea and said: "Stand in the corner there." She
was pointing to opposite the lounge chair she was sitting in, so
I would be watched.

I said: "Yes ma'am."

She said: "The collar with a snap was sent with your other
stuff, but I don't have any place I can hook you to. Go find a
place; I don't want to sit around watching you stand in the
corner."

I said: "Yes ma'am;" I looked around the living room where she
and I were and there wasn't any place, I curtsied and went into
the other rooms.

I returned and curtsied, and said: "Miss Carmen, there are three
possibilities, if we had a small piece of chain or rope we could
make a loop around the clothes bar in your closet or the shower
curtain bar in the bathroom, or if I stood in the bathtub you
could connect me to the loop for the clothes dryer." She had one
of those pull out ropes that connect to a hook and allow you to
hang wet clothes over the bathtub.

She said: "I have some rope."

She went into the kitchen and bent over a low drawer and I
noticed how attractive she was. She had a roll of clothesline
kind of string. I cut two pieces and made a loop around the
shower curtain rod and the clothes rod in her closet.

She rummaged in the small suitcase. She found the collar and the
handcuffs; I put my hands behind my back and click. She fastened
the collar around my neck, and led me by pulling on the snap to
her closet. She snapped me over the rope loop. She said: "The
handcuff keys are on the kitchen table. No moving is allowed."
She closed the closet door.

I was in darkness. I could hear her moving around in her
bedroom; then she turned out the light and closed the door. The
darkness was total. Then I heard the apartment door open and
close, she went out.

I dozed in the darkness; I could lean against the closet wall,
not too bad. I was awakened by the door opening, she came back.
I could hear her moving around. She's making tea.

The bedroom light went on, strips of light crept under the
closet door illuminating my tiny prison. I could hear her
unzipping, probably getting undressed. Then the closet opened
and I was blinded by all the light. She removed my handcuffs and
unsnapped me from the rope loop.

She said: "Pick up the clothes."

I was overwhelmed with her nakedness and beauty, I know I looked
groggy and gross from my long incarceration, and she looked so
desirable.

I said: "Yes ma'am;" And curtsied.

She said: "Don't look at me."

I said: "Yes ma'am."

I think she deliberately scattered her clothes about, I found
shoes from the same pair on the opposite sides of the bed, I put
them away, I found her panties and jeans separate from each
other, I folded her jeans, I put her panties and bra in the
hamper. I could tell she was watching me.

I curtsied and said: "I'm finished Miss Carmen." I tried not to
look at her.

She said: "I like you better handcuffed." She handcuffed me.

I tried not to look chagrined. But what could I have done to
prevent this total change in attitude.

She said: "When you're not doing work you should be restrained,
sort of like turning off a machine, in your case, I will
handcuff you. That way I know you can't get into mischief."

She got into bed and said: "You may crawl under and worship me
until I fall asleep."

I got into bed and crawled under her leg and got my face into
her ass. I could tell from her breathing that she fell asleep. I
tried not to disturb the bedding as I straightened out. It's
very uncomfortable to sleep handcuffed, but I was accustomed to
it.

I woke early and discovered my handcuffs had been opened. I got
up and started boiling water for tea for Carmen and coffee for
me. I prepared the sparse fruit we had and picked a yoghurt and
cereal and milk.

Then I got dressed and waited.

Carmen woke up and I brought her tea. I curtsied. I knelt in
front of her lovely naked body. She took the tea and sipped. She
said: "I told you last night not to look at me."

I said: "Yes ma'am;" and aimed my eyes at the carpet in front of
her feet.

She said: "You will dress me with the minimum of touching."

I said: "Yes ma'am."

I offered her several matching underwear color choices and she
picked black. I knew that putting panties and bra on a lady
usually got me in trouble. So I tried the tactic of planning
meals, while helping her put one foot and then the other into
her panties, the problem arises when she lifts a leg, and out of
the corner of your eye you see her pussy, and you're not allowed
to look.

After that, corralling her boobs with the bra, made me want to
kiss her neck and back. I held my self down with difficulty.

I finished dressing her.

I held her chair for her; then I put a napkin in her lap. I made
her fresh tea; and asked her if she wanted orange juice or
water, and served her a glass of water. Then I waited,
remembering not to look at her.

When she finished eating, she beckoned me to follow her. We went
into the toilet. She stood in front of the toilet, waiting for
me.

I unsnapped her jeans, and pulled down her panties. She held my
head in her hand so I was looking down at the floor. I saw her
jeans and panties around her legs. This prevented me from
looking at her, I guessed.

She said: "I don't have to wash hands after you help me in the
toilet. I'll see if we can do this at work."

I hoped she was kidding.

She gave me her car keys and I held the door for her. She sat in
the back and I drove.

Carmen said: "Make sure that you clean the toilets in the
allowed amount of time because I will have to give you bad marks
if you take too long. But be sure to do a thorough job because I
will have to give you bad marks if it's not cleaned right."

I said: "Yes ma'am;" She was rubbing in the fact that I was
being squeezed between the time allotment and the amount of work
needed. She was exercising being a bitch.

When we arrived, I parked and went around to the passenger back
door and opened the door for madam tyrant. I stood waiting and
she very slowly got out of the car. Then I went to the trunk and
took out the bag of female products that we had purchased.

I walked to my office. It was just before 8:00 and I had all my
tasks from Friday. My message light was blinking.

The message was from one of the programmers that the ladies
restroom floor was filled with water. One of the toilets had
overflowed. I wondered if I had to deal with that. I still had
Carmen's car keys.

I walked to her cubicle, curtsied, and I said: "Here are your
car keys, Miss Carmen; I got a message that the ladies restroom
is flooded and one of the toilets has overflowed. Shall I call
maintenance?"

Carmen said: "No you have to take care of that. I'll give you
forty-five minutes to clean that up. And keep the keys; you will
need them to drive us to lunch."

I said: "I don't know if I can do it that fast."

She said: "I didn't ask what you thought; you have forty-five
minutes to clean up the mess, fix the toilet and do your
periodic cleaning. I'll be down to inspect. If you're not done
in forty-five minutes you will get a bad mark."

I said: "Yes ma'am;" I curtsied. I saw people, my employees,
looking at us. I was very embarrassed. But I had become afraid
of this woman who only days ago was my friend and lover.

The bathroom was indeed a mess, toilet paper and water was
everywhere. I found a big squeegee that I used to move the water
to a drain. I picked up the soggy toilet paper with a dust pan.
I found the stopped up toilet, it was nasty but a plunger fixed
it. I mopped that stall and most of the rest of the floor. I
concentrated on the sinks and mirror. I managed to put
everything in its place in only thirty minutes. I filled the
little cabinet with female supplies (tampons, pads, panty
liners, etc). I counted how much of each there were.

Carmen walked in and I curtsied and said I was done.

She looked around, and said: "It looks Okay, but I wanted you
upstairs in forty-five minutes not down here. I will overlook it
this time. But since you're here, you can assist me in the
toilet, now."

I said: "Thank you Miss Carmen, yes ma'am I would be honored."

She walked into the stall that had been clogged. I followed and
when she turned around, I unsnapped her jeans, pulled them down
and pulled her panties down. I wiped and patted. I pulled up her
panties, I evened them around her waist, then I pulled up her
jeans. I was remembering her admonition about looking at her,
but I wanted to know her mood from her expression. From the
quick glances I made, I could see an expression of gritty
determination.

My fear of her increased. I didn't see any affection or
sympathy.

She said: "Maybe you can assist some of the other patrons."

I said: "Yes ma'am." She wasn't asking a question.

She said: "You can go to your office; you don't have to do the
nine-thirty cleaning."

I said: "Yes ma'am, thank you."

I met with Linda and Janet who were the authors of the company
web page. Their work was done in a very labor intensive way. I
wanted them to use what IT people call a more powerful tool.
There were many benefits of doing so beyond just saving time.
Unfortunately they didn't agree. The meeting was Linda and then
Janet telling me why they couldn't change the way they were
making web pages.

In the past, I wouldn't have listened to all this, I would have
told them to just do it, but they talked and I listened. When
they finished, I handed them brochures for the next training
class for the new web design tool. The class was next month in
San Diego. They decided that for my benefit they would go to the
training class.

I wanted to report the result of the meeting to Peggy before she
left for lunch. I called her office. Sally her secretary said I
could come up to her office at eleven-thirty.

I deleted the trash out of my e-mail inbox and read my mail. The
firm interviewing our customers was reporting that we had
improved our customers' satisfaction. This web design initiative
was my last task.

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