DOMestic Bdsm and Female Domination

Hello Mitchell

you wrote:

>I would like my wife to become at least a dom

You and thousand, perhaps even millions, of others have such
desires.

>and if she would a dominatrix

How do you define the difference between "at least a dom" and "a
dominatrix"?

>so to fully feminize, sissify, me as her slave. Here is my
>problem she thinks this is a crazy life style change for us,

If you are proposing it as a lifestyle change, then that is
bound to scare her a bit. And let's face it, it is unlikely to
be realistic to fully feminized, sissified, and actually live as
a slave for most people.

Unless you have the privilege of not needing to live and work in
the real world, your wife is likely to be right in thinking that
this idea is crazy as you have presented it.

Whereas in this day and age many wives have seen kinky stuff
like Fifty Shades of Grey in the media and might be prepared to
play a little game if you don't make it seem so scary.

>how can I convince her that to consider to try domination?

That desire is perhaps more achievable.

First you need to ask yourself "what's in it for her?" - and I
don't mean your fantasy answers.

Ask yourself what would really make life better for her, and is
there a way I can offer that to her in a way that allows me to
inch gradually towards getting my needs met.

So for example:-

One day you go out of your way to do some chore that she really
hates doing.

If she thanks you for it, simply ask her if she would mind
checking your work and ordering you to do it again if it's not
perfect.

On another occasion. You do a different chore she hates and then
surprise her with it. Reporting it to her in a way that is
amusing. For example:-

"I've just cleaned your bathroom Ma'am, I hope it meets with
your approval." Accompany the report with standing to attention
and giving a little bow.

Or perhaps do something that she has been wanting you to do for
a while, like putting up some shelves or some such handyman type
chore. Report that in a way that allows her to order something
else.

"I've done the shelves you wanted Ma'am. Are there any other
chores that would please you?"

>We have been married for a number of years and I have been and
>continue to be a closeted cross dresser

Is she aware of this cross dressing? Does she mind? Or is it a
secret that she might suspect and worry about?

>with the desire to please her as a slave

Most men who have these desires actually want to do the things
they enjoy, but under her orders. If you actually want to please
her then you don't need the orders, you can just get on with
doing the things that please her.

If she likes the results, you could ask her if she minds you
wearing "a pinny" to do certain chores.

Softly softly and let her see some benefits and she might find
the idea of your cross dressing more acceptable.

"Do you mind if I pretend to be your maid?" is much more likely
to be an acceptable question after you've actually been doing it
for a while anyway.

>and be used to please other men and women as she wants.

Is there any reason to believe that she actually would enjoy
such sexual activities? Has she said or done anything to suggest
that involving other people is something she would like? Or is
that another of your fantasies?

The key is to think about what she wants, and find ways to give
it to her in ways that ease her towards styles of behaviour that
you might enjoy.

>Help Please!

Tell us more about your life as it is at the moment, and your
experiences with your wife thus far, and then other folk might
have suggestions that would help you to gradually integrate
things that ease her fears.

sincerely, Christine

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