DOMestic Bdsm and Female Domination

Hello kymy,

You wrote:

>I sometimes won't let him be there as I serve my bull[s].

As you are the dominant in the relationship with your hubby,
then it's up to you whether you allow him to be present and
enjoy being cuckolded first hand.

Some submissives enjoy the idea that their Mistress is being
dominated by, or is serving, a dominant 'bull'.

I can enjoy that illusion, if that role-play is giving my
Mistress pleasure. But I like to know, in my heart, that in
reality my Mistress is really in control of the 'game'.

>he bitches and begs for all the details.

Which might suggest that your hubby really wants to enjoy being
cuckolded by you.

>I have made him clean me in front of my lovers.

That sounds like the kind of thing I'd love. For me, one of the
most important things is that I'm serving my Mistress, not her
lover.

If I'm made to lick up what came from his cock, then it's my
Mistress who is making me do it, not her "bull". So as long as
it's my Mistress instructing me to do the cleaning then it's
heaven for me.

I want to know that my Mistress is happy with the health and
safety of the 'bull'. And if she is happy for the 'bull' to have
made a mess, then I will enjoy being 'forced' to clean up.

>I want to take it further and totally humiliate him and make
>him fluff and clean their cocks for me.

The keywords there are "for me" - that's the bit that turns me
on. That it's for you. My Mistress is making me do this stuff
for her. She's enjoying it.

Once I know that she's getting off on it, then I can enjoy the
indignity of getting him ready for her.

>he talks a good game, but I think he'll panic when it all
>happens! lol!

I can't know the mind of your hubby, so for the purpose of this
discussion I'll just have to assume he's like me.

As long as he knows he can trust you to retain control, and not
hand over dominance to anyone else, and he has plenty of warning
that it's going to happen, he'll not be likely to panic.

Whenever I've been in a multi dominant situation, the thing I
fear most is that my Mistress will stop protecting me from other
folk who might try to take control.

Assuming that you do not want him to panic, then just make sure
he knows you are in control, and that your "bull" is only
allowed to use your hubby as long as you are enjoying it. Then
hubby will know he is being kept safe.

>I've been secretly fucking for about three months.

That's the bit that would make me worry that my Mistress might
no longer be interested in me, or that she might no longer care
more about me than her lover.

If my Mistress knows that I enjoy being a cuckold and that I
enjoy my suffering as I hear her telling me all the salacious
details of her encounters with her lovers, why would she keep it
a secret for three months?

Trust is in danger if this secret has been between us for three
months, unless we've already agreed that secret lovers is a
'game' she/we might enjoy.

>he's up for making him serve.

That's great, that should mean 3 willing participants, and lots
of fun for all.

>not only will I shock him with my latest lover.

I can't speak for your hubby, but that kind of shock is not a
turn on for me.

Knowing my Mistress has a lover, and that she is tormenting me
with it is sexy. Telling me she is going out on dates regularly
for 3 months would be a turn on, because she is telling me she
has a lover, and is 'sharing' that 'secrecy' with me for our
mutual pleasure.

That would be a scary and worrying turn on, but hopefully one
that would end well when the lover was revealed.

But the idea that my Mistress has a totally secret lover is just
too scary for me.

>but make him suck as well.

If my Mistress orders me to suck something (safe) because it
gives her pleasure, that's more than good enough for me. The
illusion of being 'forced' to suck cock is a turn on for many
submissives. So I'm going to love it as much as she does. But
not if it came as a complete shock.

sincerely,
David

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