From: "Christine" at u4ds.com
Hello Audrey,
You wrote:
>I want Gerald to be unable to 'spurt' without permission. I
>want him desperate.
You might be surprised at the effect you will get by simply
telling him to wear any device, even if it doesn't achieve your
goal of making him totally chaste.
So, I would say, don't sweat the small stuff. Send him to bed
early, in the spare room if you have one, wearing a chastity
belt every night, and pop in and drop your discarded panties on
his face before you retire to bed yourself.
He will know you are doing that to make him suffer 'caged'
frustration, and he will love it. Then regardless of what
frustrating activity he gets up to, you will see the kind of
change in attitude you said you are looking for.
You may not need to go for permanent wear or constant
supervision if you don't want to. Most "boys" just want to know
you care enough to lock them up at night, or whenever they are
going to be unsupervised. Their feverish and fantasising little
minds fill in the details. If he has your knickers and is locked
up, he'll know you are the wicked boss he dreams of.
If you tell him that you don't want him to spurt, and tell him
that he is in a chastity belt to make sure any leakage is the
kind of ruined spurt he deserves for misbehaving, then you can
operate a don't ask don't tell policy.
Only ask what he's been up to if you want an excuse to impose a
further penalty. If you don't want such an excuse, or reason,
then don't ask.
You may find that a simple regime like that is as much "lock up
and forget" as you'll need or want. In fact the routine of
instructing him to put it on at bedtime is likely to be more
satisfying for your submissive than being locked away and
forgotten. Most "boys" get unhappy if ignored.
But, Audrey, you also wrote.
>I was hoping to organise something for Gerald that is more
>lock up and forget than what you do with David. As I really
>want Gerald to be kept absolutely chaste until I feel like
>letting him wank.
Based on what Gerald has said in the "cane me please Mistress
Audrey" thread at...
https://u4ds.com/2018/08/cane_me_please_mistress_audrey.shtml
I think your desire for total chastity control seems likely to
be a dream come true for him. He must be very excited by reading
what you wrote. So, if that is what you really want. And to
answer your direct question which was....
>"I wonder if there are belts more suited to permanent
>chastity?"
Yes, there are belts that are "more" suited to permanent wear.
For that you'll want to measure him in detail and buy an
appropriately sized device rather than an off the shelf one.
You might want to look at BON4 in Holland, Mature Metal in the
USA and RED CHILI/cage-de-chastete in Tarragona, Spain.
Those three are made in sizes that you'll need to measure him
for. I've seen very good reports on all three but there are
others that I have not researched as thoroughly. I'm not
recommending any particular one, as I've not tried any of them
myself, yet! (David watch out!)
If you try one of the above for a few hundred dollars, or spend
even more on individually tailor-made to measure which can run
to thousands, you'll get the comfort and sizing which is
necessary for the long term daily wear you want for Gerald.
No device is ever likely to be perfectly suited to your ideal of
"lock up and forget". So whether you choose a made to measure
device, or experiment with cheap stuff from an online shopping
site, is actually less important than understanding the
psychology of your submissive partner. Because it isn't just the
device, but how you both use it, that can result in the kind of
control you desire.
Chastity devices only work if a submissive wants it to. And most
submissives really do want it to. The fantasy we all enjoy is
that the device is doing the controlling, when in reality it is
the mental commitment of both sub and Dom that does it. The
device is just a comfortable (or not) reminder of their mutual
commitment.
It's clear from what Gerald has already posted here that he
thinks he is prepared to make the commitment if you want him to.
He has stated his desire to feel female power and control. The
more important question is whether you are prepared for what was
implied by your own statement.
>"He might be begging for it daily, but I'd be likely to just
>say no until my mood was right. Or...."
It also doesn't matter a whole lot on what activity follows the
"Or...", it is the fact of your permitting him to beg daily, and
your preparedness for deciding either 'yes', or more importantly
'no' that will excite him perhaps more than you intended by your
throw away remark.
Based on what you posted I think you are likely to soon find
regular begging tiresome, and you'll get the results you need
from the chastity belt in the spare bedroom treatment I
suggested.
But if it's begging you really want, you will want to ensure
that he does not intrude with his begging. I find it best to
require David to kneel and wait for me to notice him. Then I can
either encourage him to beg, or simply dismiss him if I'm
otherwise engaged.
He may not enjoy the actuality and the humiliation of begging
for permission to wank, but he will absolutely love the idea
that you have decided that you want that. So if you demand it,
he will love it. If you insist that is what you want, he will in
all probability think he is in heaven. He will then enjoy the
frustration of whatever device he is wearing if you've just sent
him away with a simple 'not today maybe tomorrow if you're
good'.
"Lock up and forget" will be unlikely to inspire a lot of
enthusiasm for your regime. But a simple daily activity like
telling him to get ready for bed in his chastity belt will be
likely to achieve the attitude change you want. Begging and
denial is a bonus that Gerald will love when you want that level
of activity, but you don't need to go that far.
sincerely, Christine
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